How do you live with family members's sickness?

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booklover72

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Christane17 you are a wonderful and caring person and my thoughts are with you. because although i am a qualifed programmer, i was brought up by my grandparents and my grandfather developed Alzimer's and it was pitiful to watch him decline. i didn't work i wanted to help my grandmother with him. anyway after a long time in hospital he died. then my grandmother got cancer and i definitely would nnot go to work.(we were very close) and i did things most men wouldn't do, but she brought me upso it was my turn. You do need some own time, when i got free time, i would read and every 2nd friday i would relieve the stress by have some budweisers. remember family and friends are everything. thanks for reading.
 

blunthead

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My prayers and best wishes go to you and your family. The best advice I can give you is have patience and tolerance. Do not ask if a sick person needs a bit of help...like doing a laundry load or washing a dish...just go and do it because folks hesitate to ask for help. After having reoccuring cancer for years, I know the frustration of simply not being able to get my chores done. I, also, feel that a clean cozy environment does help the sick feel better and is important. I am not feeling well right now and I have a sneaking suspicion that my cancer is back. I get my scope at the end of the month. I am not looking forward to it. That is enought of me whining lol. I am gonna go make a meatloaf.
Please keep us posted. Thoughts, prayers, and vibes, staro.

(((((staro)))))
 

staropeace

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Nov 28, 2006
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They are sending me for tests again monday...I was at the lab today. Mom died yesterday and I am too ill to get on a plane and fly to Newfoundland for her funeral. I am so very sad. This has been a really bad winter for me. Almost too much. I am resting and reading...that is the best I can do. My mom was such a good person. The world is not a better place without her in it.
 

FlakeNoir

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They are sending me for tests again monday...I was at the lab today. Mom died yesterday and I am too ill to get on a plane and fly to Newfoundland for her funeral. I am so very sad. This has been a really bad winter for me. Almost too much. I am resting and reading...that is the best I can do. My mom was such a good person. The world is not a better place without her in it.
Oh (((Star))).... :down: baby girl, I am so sorry. I wish I could be there to hug you right now. Much love to you my dear friend, I'm so sad for you... xox
 

HollyGolightly

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They are sending me for tests again monday...I was at the lab today. Mom died yesterday and I am too ill to get on a plane and fly to Newfoundland for her funeral. I am so very sad. This has been a really bad winter for me. Almost too much. I am resting and reading...that is the best I can do. My mom was such a good person. The world is not a better place without her in it.
Oh staro - I'm so sorry and sad for you! Oh my gosh! How sad, horrible, tragic. I'm keeping you in my prayers.
 

FlakeNoir

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They are sending me for tests again monday...I was at the lab today. Mom died yesterday and I am too ill to get on a plane and fly to Newfoundland for her funeral. I am so very sad. This has been a really bad winter for me. Almost too much. I am resting and reading...that is the best I can do. My mom was such a good person. The world is not a better place without her in it.
I've had a little time to get my head in order--please come be with us as often as you need... you know that there will always be someone here almost all the way around the clock.
Whenever you need it... to cry, for love, to yell/scream and shout, or to just be... come to us Star, we will help to ease your load. xox :love:
 

Spideyman

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Star, I am so sorry to hear this news. Prayers are being said, a candle lit for your mom. More inner strength prayers for you. As Flake said- we are here for you. Feel the love, caring and comfort of the Ka-Tet. ((((Star))))

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skimom2

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They are sending me for tests again monday...I was at the lab today. Mom died yesterday and I am too ill to get on a plane and fly to Newfoundland for her funeral. I am so very sad. This has been a really bad winter for me. Almost too much. I am resting and reading...that is the best I can do. My mom was such a good person. The world is not a better place without her in it.

{{{Staro}}}
 

mstay

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Oct 13, 2007
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Not well today. I'm wearing out, to be honest. The mental changes due to my mother's MS have made her such a different person than the woman who raised me. It gets harder and harder every week.

It does get harder skimom. I'm sorry that you are going through this. Just do your best to keep your head above water and take time to recharge when you can.
 

blunthead

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They are sending me for tests again monday...I was at the lab today. Mom died yesterday and I am too ill to get on a plane and fly to Newfoundland for her funeral. I am so very sad. This has been a really bad winter for me. Almost too much. I am resting and reading...that is the best I can do. My mom was such a good person. The world is not a better place without her in it.
I am so very sorry, staro. I grieve with you as I reread your post. Know that you are loved. Allow yourself to grieve, and to be comforted by knowing you are loved. I know I speak for the SKMB when I offer to be here for you in the coming days.