Two really big pieces of news for me

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Todash

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Hi, guys. I haven't been around for a while, I know ... Life's just been a bit crazy, what with the job loss and relationship issues and all. Things are starting to resolve, though.

The first bit of news is: I got a job! A good one! WOOHOO!! I start a week from Monday, so YAY. I knew I'd find something eventually. Just wasn't sure it'd be in time to avert financial disaster. I think it probably will be.

The second bit of news is: after months of struggling and soul-searching, and one final "straw that broke the camel's back," I've decided I'm going to end my marriage. My friends who have been through it told me that one day you just know you're done, and they were right; that is pretty much how it works. I'm done. Done done. Because of our financial issues, we are stuck together for the moment, but thankfully things are much more civil than I thought they might be. May they remain that way.

So, uh ... what's up with you guys?
 
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Really good to hear from you Todash! Congratulations on the new job, that's fantastic. And I'm relieved for you on your second piece of news, I really am and I wish you both well with your lives and send you peaceful, calm vibes... thank you for checking in with us. :)
 
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Todash said:
Hi, guys. I haven't been around for a while, I know ... Life's just been a bit crazy, what with the job loss and relationship issues and all. Things are starting to resolve, though.

The first bit of news is: I got a job! A good one! WOOHOO!! I start a week from Monday, so YAY. I knew I'd find something eventually. Just wasn't sure it'd be in time to avert financial disaster. I think it probably will be.

The second bit of news is: after months of struggling and soul-searching, and one final "straw that broke the camel's back," I've decided I'm going to end my marriage. My friends who have been through it told me that one day you just know you're done, and they were right; that is pretty much how it works. I'm done. Done done. Because of our financial issues, we are stuck together for the moment, but thankfully things are much more civil than I thought they might be. May they remain that way.

So, uh ... what's up with you guys?
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Oh Todash.... good news on one hand and sad news on the other. So good to see you. No one knows better than yourself regarding your marriage. Onwards and upwards my lovely, may this be the first day of the start of something wonderful for you. :love:
 
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FlakeNoir said:
Really good to hear from you Todash! Congratulations on the new job, that's fantastic. And I'm relieved for you on your second piece of news, I really am and I wish you both well with your lives and send you peaceful, calm vibes... thank you for checking in with us. :)
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Thanks. I know he's still holding out hope for a reconciliation (which is not going to happen), but I also am pretty sure that he will be better off once he has to rely on himself for a while. I don't bear him any ill will at all; he's just a human with human weaknesses, and frankly, I enabled him for far too long. Part of my journey has been learning the difference between being nice ("too nice," in my case) and being kind. May I ever be kind to all I meet, from here on out, including myself.
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Oh Todash.... good news on one hand and sad news on the other. So good to see you. No one knows better than yourself regarding your marriage. Onwards and upwards my lovely, may this be the first day of the start of something wonderful for you. :love:
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You know, it is sad ... and it isn't. Right now we're handling it really well. We're actually going up to see his parents today. I have always hoped that we could remain friends if we divorced, and he always said that would never happen, but he's changing his tune now. I expect there will be ups and downs, but I do think that in the end, there's a possibility that we could, in fact, be friends. Not the same way we were before we married, but in some ways that may be better.
 
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...the absolute definition of "left handed" blessings....I wish you well my beautiful friend on your new employment, and the marriage?....I applaud you for making the decision and moving on-instead of sentencing yourself to a miserable(for you)relationship...it'll be difficult for him to suck it up, but he'll do it...I can't tell you in twenty years, how many times Tracy has had to throat punch me for being stupid or insensitive, and I wouldn't blame her for kicking me to the curb...but somehow she hangs in, and I do feel it's for love and not out of obligation...you are both strong women, and nobody pushes you around...concentrate on the job, and may the cordiality continue...
 
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Very sorry about your marriage. Relationships are complicated, sometimes too complicated. I don't think there is any "line in the sand" on knowing when to bail, but it sounds like you've tried about everything you can. Good luck with your job, stay strong.
 
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I'm so glad you found a new job! Good luck with it.
Ending a marriage is very difficult. I know, I've been there not to long ago. But I have more inner peace now than ever before, as will you. I,too, am still friends with my ex, and he was there for me on a couple of occasions recently. It really does get better.
 
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Todash said:
Hi, guys. I haven't been around for a while, I know ... Life's just been a bit crazy, what with the job loss and relationship issues and all. Things are starting to resolve, though.

The first bit of news is: I got a job! A good one! WOOHOO!! I start a week from Monday, so YAY. I knew I'd find something eventually. Just wasn't sure it'd be in time to avert financial disaster. I think it probably will be.

The second bit of news is: after months of struggling and soul-searching, and one final "straw that broke the camel's back," I've decided I'm going to end my marriage. My friends who have been through it told me that one day you just know you're done, and they were right; that is pretty much how it works. I'm done. Done done. Because of our financial issues, we are stuck together for the moment, but thankfully things are much more civil than I thought they might be. May they remain that way.

So, uh ... what's up with you guys?
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Congratulations on he new and improved job !!

and yes .... you know you're done when you're done ... I had 20 years under the belt .... decided I had enough misery and called it quits ... now I am married to the love of my life .... I hope you have a sense of relief with your decision... I hope things remain civil .... Hugs and love your way ....
 
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This is good news all around. Relationships are a mystery. Some mysteries are real bummers, and should be shelved. I'm glad things are civil. Maybe the two of you can be friends; perhaps even better ones than before. As for the new job, wtg!!! That's good news for all of us who are wondering when things will turn around.
 
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Todash said:
Hi, guys. I haven't been around for a while, I know ... Life's just been a bit crazy, what with the job loss and relationship issues and all. Things are starting to resolve, though.

The first bit of news is: I got a job! A good one! WOOHOO!! I start a week from Monday, so YAY. I knew I'd find something eventually. Just wasn't sure it'd be in time to avert financial disaster. I think it probably will be.

The second bit of news is: after months of struggling and soul-searching, and one final "straw that broke the camel's back," I've decided I'm going to end my marriage. My friends who have been through it told me that one day you just know you're done, and they were right; that is pretty much how it works. I'm done. Done done. Because of our financial issues, we are stuck together for the moment, but thankfully things are much more civil than I thought they might be. May they remain that way.

So, uh ... what's up with you guys?
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Keep on Keepin' On~
 
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