I Am Angry Today Because . . .

César Hernández-Meraz · Apr 27, 2016

not_nadine said:
Don't know if I'm angry or what to feel.

I do not hear from my sister(s) since my mom passed about geeze, years ago now. I figured it from my eldest, we did not grow up together, she was gone and married while I was still a youngster. But she did the 'family dinner holiday' stuff.

Now. The only time I hear from her is one line email. Last time obit two weeks ago for someone she knew I loved. "Thought you would want to know" That it.

I don't live in the area anymore to see obits.

Tonight, one line and a picture of the house we grew up in. She drove by it.
It's in terrible disrepair. Made me very sad.

Thanks, Paddy.

Ok, I'm done now. whew.

(gosh, I hope she does not come here, told her about this. ahhh.)
I do love and miss her.

Perhaps she is just like that, and loves you back but simply is not an "in contact" person?

I think she does show it by those sporadic messages. She does think about you. As I said before, she may simply not be into messaging or perhaps she feels as insecure about you as you do about her.

Why not let her know you love and miss her, and would like to stay in touch?

not_nadine · Apr 27, 2016

thanks. Enough about me. I know. Will work on all that.

Lets move on.

CoriSCapnSkip · Apr 27, 2016

Spideyman said:
You say you do have choices, you acknowledge that fact. If they appear bad to you, change them. Make them good. See the positives in your life, not the negatives. If you ask nothing, you will receive nothing in return. If you do not like your state of existence, change it.

Try to find positives that you do have- a home(vs those who are homeless); food (vs those who go hungry every day); eyesight( vs those who can no longer see or have extremely poor vision); hearing (vs those who are deaf); I could go on and on-- clothes, ability to buy what you need- basic necessities, maybe event some thing from the want list instead of only the need list. Some degree of financial stability-- able to seek medical help when ill.

If you are anxious and upset, seek a way to become calm and serene . There are ways. The only thing you can control, is you.

It's not that I don't have those things or do not appreciate them. I do. I am upset at my lack of ability to be able to do anything in the face of the prospect of losing them, and that I don't know anyone who can help. That's what I am upset about. Not at what I don't have, but over what I do have and stand to lose!

Spideyman · Apr 27, 2016

(((NN))) love and green lights---

César Hernández-Meraz · Apr 27, 2016

not_nadine said:
thanks. Enough about me. I know. Will work on all that.

Lets move on.

Back to me and my taxes, then.

Turns out that, after years of doing the tax thing, this year I was not required to do it, because of a change in my payments' schema.

So, if I had simply not done anything, I would not have to go pay those $83...

Now I can be mad at them and at myself. :crushed:

Spideyman · Apr 27, 2016

CoriSCapnSkip said:
It's not that I don't have those things or do not appreciate them. I do. I am upset at my lack of ability to be able to do anything in the face of the prospect of losing them, and that I don't know anyone who can help. That's what I am upset about. Not at what I don't have, but over what I do have and stand to lose!

Can you say, give an example, of what you do have that you stand to lose. And why do you feel you are facing the prospect of losing them? Maybe there is someone here who could help, or steer you in the right directions.

HollyGolightly · Apr 27, 2016

Spideyman said:
More a rant than angry. The USPS used to have free mailer boxes in the PO. These were the various sized priority type and flat rates. Awhile back, the PO informed me they would no longer carry them, but you could go on line and order then, and the PO delivery person would bring them to the mailbox.

Ok, the rant: what happens to those who have no computer to order the boxes?

So, I go to the site- you basically have to sign your life away, become a member in good standing with usernames/ passwords/id questions/ phone #/ personal info and the topper your CC #. Excuse me-- there is no cost to these boxes. They go to a simple address for delivery. I also noted S&H would be added at end== I never got that far. I quit.

You may ask why the rant over boxes. Flat rates have a set price. And you can really stuff them. Once you reach 4lb they becomes cost effective.

I heard from a friend that she is able to get said boxes at her PO. I just might be in the mood to send a good rant letter to my local PO.

Spidey, my P.O. still has those boxes. I wonder if I could stuff some boxes into some boxes and mail them to you? I would certainly if I could!

Sam Joyce said:
me asking to my classmates as nice as i can => did not answer me straight and politely => scolded by professor for napping because i haven't sleep => classmates laughing at me = bad mood at the rest of the day (okay, just calm down, Sam. just hit them on Wednesday with your shoes)

Those are tough years you're going thru Sam. Keep on being your cute classy self and you'll be fine! Are you not sleeping well?

not_nadine said:
I do love and miss her.

You might have to be the one to say that first, love. (((nottie)))

Back to Cesar's taxes now! That sucks! So next year you'll know better.

Spideyman · Apr 27, 2016

HollyGolightly -- thank you Holly- The postage is outrageous. I have a friend who will be on business to the other coast soon, and she'll pick me up some. You have a kind heart!

Arcadevere · Apr 27, 2016

HollyGolightly said:
Those are tough years you're going thru Sam. Keep on being your cute classy self and you'll be fine! Are you not sleeping well?

Thanks! you are really a nice fella

, i'm trying to be in my own self when i'm angry. my friends did not like when they see me angry (i'm a violent person if i got angry, that's what the told me). i haven't a good sleeping hours these past few days because i found myself wide awake, holding a pencil and a plan paper of water lines and sewers

not_nadine · Apr 27, 2016

Sam Joyce said:
Thanks! you are really a nice fella , i'm trying to be in my own self when i'm angry. my friends did not like when they see me angry (i'm a violent person if i got angry, that's what the told me). i haven't a good sleeping hours these past few days because i found myself wide awake, holding a pencil and a plan paper of water lines and sewers

What software do you use for your plans?

Neesy · Apr 27, 2016

AnnaMarie said:
When my kids caught them, they shared with daddy. So I nursed the three of them through it. DH really suffered. My understanding is, with adult men, it can cause sterility. Obviously it didn't with him.

I don't remember what age we finally decided to get the youngest the vax. I know it was before he was a teen. All the years he was in school, I only recall one outbreak.

Can having the vaccine and/or chicken pox affect one's chances of contracting shingles later in life? You DO NOT want to have to suffer through that (believe me!) Had it in 2013 and it was hell.

Arcadevere · Apr 27, 2016

not_nadine said:
What software do you use for your plans?

we are using Autocad (i am using the 2012 and 2015 version). it contains a lot to complete paper plans

not_nadine · Apr 27, 2016

I'm using Version 16 now.

Good luck. Don't like Autocad so much, but forced to use it right now. Better software out there.

Have you tried BuildersCad?

HollyGolightly · Apr 27, 2016

Sam Joyce said:
we are using Autocad (i am using the 2012 and 2015 version). it contains a lot to complete paper plans

That is quite a project y'all are doing! Fascinating. I think our n_n knows a thing or two about Cad.

HollyGolightly · Apr 27, 2016

Neesy said:
Can having the vaccine and/or chicken pox affect one's chances of contracting shingles later in life? You DO NOT want to have to suffer through that (believe me!) Had it in 2013 and it was hell.

I'm not sure if they can know yet. My daughter is almost 25 and they didn't have that vaccine until she was 4 or 5 - so those kids who were 1 in 1995 are only 20-21 now. Shingles comes on later (I think), but wouldn't that be great if it did reduce the chances of getting that. I've seen a few people struggle through. They were in awful pain.

Well - I had to google it. It sounds vague - it MAY prevent shingles. But there is also a shingles vaccine now.

Neesy · Apr 27, 2016

HollyGolightly said:
I'm not sure if they can know yet. My daughter is almost 25 and they didn't have that vaccine until she was 4 or 5 - so those kids who were 1 in 1995 are only 20-21 now. Shingles comes on later (I think), but wouldn't that be great if it did reduce the chances of getting that. I've seen a few people struggle through. They were in awful pain.

Well - I had to google it. It sounds vague - it MAY prevent shingles. But there is also a shingles vaccine now.

I was in a lot of pain. It lasted two weeks and then occasionally would flare up again. (Being under lots of stress can also bring it on).

I'm 100% better now compared to three years ago (in overall general health).

not_nadine · Apr 27, 2016

ha! same time post.

HollyGolightly · Apr 27, 2016

Neesy said:
I was in a lot of pain. It lasted two weeks and then occasionally would flare up again. (Being under lots of stress can also bring it on).

I'm 100% better now compared to three years ago (in overall general health).

You are rocking the diet and exercise thing, girl! I bet you feel great! So much energy!

Neesy · Apr 27, 2016

HollyGolightly said:
You are rocking the diet and exercise thing, girl! I bet you feel great! So much energy!

I did slack off a wee bit lately and tomorrow is weigh-in day, but I think maybe my weight has stayed the same i.e. "maintenance" - I do want to get back on track and start writing food choices down again.

Arcadevere · Apr 27, 2016

not_nadine said:
I'm using Version 16 now.

Good luck. Don't like Autocad so much, but forced to use it right now. Better software out there.

Have you tried BuildersCad?

that software sounds new to me, seriously, will ask my professor about that software and if he uses that thing (well at least, i could have an idea how it works).
I don't like the 2016 of Autocad because it gives me massive headaches.

I Am Angry Today Because . . .

Wants to be Nick, ends up as Larry

Comfortably Roont

Well-Known Member

Uber Member

Wants to be Nick, ends up as Larry

Uber Member

Well-Known Member

Uber Member

Gentle Lady From Brady Hartsfield Defense Squad

Comfortably Roont

#1 fan (Annie Wilkes cousin) 1st cousin Mom's side

Gentle Lady From Brady Hartsfield Defense Squad

Comfortably Roont

Well-Known Member

Well-Known Member

#1 fan (Annie Wilkes cousin) 1st cousin Mom's side

Comfortably Roont

Well-Known Member

#1 fan (Annie Wilkes cousin) 1st cousin Mom's side

Gentle Lady From Brady Hartsfield Defense Squad