I Am Angry Today Because . . .

  • This message board permanently closed on June 30th, 2020 at 4PM EDT and is no longer accepting new members.

HollyGolightly

HollyGolightly

Well-Known Member
Sep 6, 2013
9,660
74,320
54
Heart of the South
Neesy said:
:biglove:
I did slack off a wee bit lately and tomorrow is weigh-in day, but I think maybe my weight has stayed the same i.e. "maintenance" - I do want to get back on track and start writing food choices down again.
Click to expand...
I did that for a while - food journaling. Today I was shameful. Dinner: 2 Cherry Poptarts.
 
  • Like
Reactions: niro, Spideyman, king family fan and 2 others
CoriSCapnSkip

CoriSCapnSkip

Well-Known Member
Jan 16, 2015
1,735
7,765
61
Spideyman said:
Can you say, give an example, of what you do have that you stand to lose. And why do you feel you are facing the prospect of losing them? Maybe there is someone here who could help, or steer you in the right directions.
Click to expand...

Yes, I am being given as far as I can see the following choices as to lodgings over the next few years:

1. Stay where I am and keep everything I consider mine, but be unable to maintain it, and end up basically living in a haunted house that eventually collapses around me, where my stuff will be ruined anyhow and I will probably die. Or I could try to recruit a roommate who either won't materialize at all or will be some psycho who holds me prisoner in my own home.

2. Give up all but a few basics of everything I care about (meaning, being forced into thousands of Sophie's Choices regarding what to liquidate and how!) and move with the rest tied in a bandanna into some place I can afford, meaning shack, box, or tent. I could live forty years in this state but with no possessions, hobbies, or pets, I would spend every day of it cursing the day I was born. I am not particularly materialistic but would much rather die. I would happily die if everyone else would be better off that way, but will take some convincing that that is really best.

3. I either commit some crime (or more likely am accused of one), or am a victim of a crime, illness, or accident, and end up in an institution. (Prison or hospital. Worse than a shack or box.)

4. A miracle happens making the three top choices irrelevant.

5. Just die in the next few years and get it over with. And even then unless it is sudden I have to figure out who gets my stuff which gives me a headache to think about.

The reason I am putting this stuff out there now is that whatever happens I don't want anyone saying I didn't see it coming.
 
  • Like
Reactions: Neesy, niro and Spideyman
AnnaMarie

AnnaMarie

Well-Known Member
Feb 16, 2012
7,068
29,564
Other
Neesy said:
Can having the vaccine and/or chicken pox affect one's chances of contracting shingles later in life? You DO NOT want to have to suffer through that (believe me!) Had it in 2013 and it was hell.
Click to expand...

You have to have had chicken pox to get shingles. So, I'm guessing if you get the vax you would also be prevented from contracting that.

But I'm just guessing....maybe someone with real medical training knows?
 
  • Like
Reactions: Neesy, CoriSCapnSkip, niro and 1 other person
AnnaMarie

AnnaMarie

Well-Known Member
Feb 16, 2012
7,068
29,564
Other
And the shingles vax is also not paid for by the government.

Last year my husband had to get some other vax (can't remember what it was). I am trying to convince him to get the shingles vax too. He has very severe psoriasis, and I think it would make shingles worse...or shingles would make it worse.
 
  • Like
Reactions: Neesy, CoriSCapnSkip and niro
Spideyman

Spideyman

Uber Member
Jul 10, 2006
46,336
195,472
79
Just north of Duma Key
AnnaMarie said:
You have to have had chicken pox to get shingles. So, I'm guessing if you get the vax you would also be prevented from contracting that.

But I'm just guessing....maybe someone with real medical training knows?
Click to expand...
Prevention
By Mayo Clinic Staff

Two vaccines may help prevent shingles — the chickenpox (varicella) vaccine and the shingles (varicella-zoster) vaccine.

Chickenpox vaccine
The varicella vaccine (Varivax) has become a routine childhood immunization to prevent chickenpox. The vaccine is also recommended for adults who've never had chickenpox. Though the vaccine doesn't guarantee you won't get chickenpox or shingles, it can reduce your chances of complications and reduce the severity of the disease.

Shingles vaccine
The Food and Drug Administration has approved the use of the varicella-zoster vaccine (Zostavax) for adults age 50 and older. Like the chickenpox vaccine, the shingles vaccine doesn't guarantee you won't get shingles. But this vaccine will likely reduce the course and severity of the disease and reduce your risk of postherpetic neuralgia.

The shingles vaccine is used only as a prevention strategy, however. It's not intended to treat people who currently have the disease. The vaccine contains live virus and should not be given to people who have weakened immune systems.

The chicken pox vaccine, approved by the Food and Drug Administration in 1995, involves injecting children with a live but weakened varicella virus. The body can safely fight it off, producing chicken pox immunity.

Dr. Ann Arvin, professor of pediatrics and infectious diseases at Stanford, says doctors aren't yet sure whether this weakened virus will produce shingles immunity, too, or whether it is strong enough to cause shingles years later. In the meantime, she offers advice to adults over 50 who fear shingles' wrath: Get the shingles vaccine. Zostavax, which is also created from a weakened form of varicella, boosts adults' ability to fight the existing virus if it reactivates. The FDA approved the vaccine for people 50 and over in 2011, after a study of 22,000 people showed that people who had the vaccine were 70 percent less likely to get shingles within a year than people who received a placebo. The vaccine's protection lasts at least six years, and research is under way to determine if it lasts longer. (Source: 1.usa.gov/dKiyWp)
 
  • Like
Reactions: Neesy, CoriSCapnSkip, niro and 1 other person
Spideyman

Spideyman

Uber Member
Jul 10, 2006
46,336
195,472
79
Just north of Duma Key
CoriSCapnSkip said:
Yes, I am being given as far as I can see the following choices as to lodgings over the next few years:

1. Stay where I am and keep everything I consider mine, but be unable to maintain it, and end up basically living in a haunted house that eventually collapses around me, where my stuff will be ruined anyhow and I will probably die. Or I could try to recruit a roommate who either won't materialize at all or will be some psycho who holds me prisoner in my own home.

2. Give up all but a few basics of everything I care about (meaning, being forced into thousands of Sophie's Choices regarding what to liquidate and how!) and move with the rest tied in a bandanna into some place I can afford, meaning shack, box, or tent. I could live forty years in this state but with no possessions, hobbies, or pets, I would spend every day of it cursing the day I was born. I am not particularly materialistic but would much rather die. I would happily die if everyone else would be better off that way, but will take some convincing that that is really best.

3. I either commit some crime (or more likely am accused of one), or am a victim of a crime, illness, or accident, and end up in an institution. (Prison or hospital. Worse than a shack or box.)

4. A miracle happens making the three top choices irrelevant.

5. Just die in the next few years and get it over with. And even then unless it is sudden I have to figure out who gets my stuff which gives me a headache to think about.

The reason I am putting this stuff out there now is that whatever happens I don't want anyone saying I didn't see it coming.
Click to expand...


Ok, you have put it out here so we will not say you didn;t see it coming.:smile2:
Cori, all of this is part of life. Things one has to deal with as they get older. Been there with my mom/ there now with myself. I have almost 20 years over your age, so things like becoming ill, dependent on others, dealing with possession, having enough funds to pay for all things needed are reality. Living on a fixed income. Life! Wants went out the window years ago.

Have you considered an elder/estate attorney? Many will consult for free. They might be able to advise you as to planning for your future. And by the way #5 is unacceptable. Negatives Cori- change that to positives! It does not hurt to think about what of your treasures you desire to go to which family member. I had an aunt who posted noted on the back of all her treasures with the names of the nieces and nephews it was to be given.

You do not need to give up everything you have/possess. Instead simplify, organize. What can you absolutely not live without/ what could you donate/ what is pure trash that you were "just saving'???

Right now you sound overwhelmed. That is why I suggested an estate planner, or someone who can offer suggestions on ways you can stop worrying about all these "what if's". You need to be enjoying life, living in the now. Doing what will make you happy. But first, you have to stop being so overwhelmed. I send love and green lights.

Maybe others can offer better suggestions.........
 
  • Like
Reactions: Neesy, CoriSCapnSkip, king family fan and 5 others
DiO'Bolic

DiO'Bolic

Not completely obtuse
Nov 14, 2013
22,864
129,998
Poconos, PA
Sundrop said:
I am angry today because I never got to have a First Moon Party.......
Click to expand...
Does this help? :)
massmoon.gif
 
  • Like
Reactions: Neesy, CoriSCapnSkip, Dana Jean and 4 others
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top Bottom