A very hard time now!!

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Jojo87

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I am without work at this moment. I couldn't work in the gas station, was too
difficult and I lost my appetite and my sleep because I had to stressful in the work.
So I called my boss on Saturday and told her that I won't come to work anymore.
She was OK with it just told me that it's your decision and accepted it. I also told
her how stressful it is to work and that I don't think about anything else than work
while I am off. And also that I suffer from anxiety. And everything this because I had
to work in the gas station. I also been crying a lot lately.

Now I and Juho living a hard time. We don't have much money and all money
we get we must save so we can pay all bills. Juho is working and get money every
month. But I don't get much money and have my critters to take care of. Must buy
food for them and we need some food as well. I'm sitting home during the days and
just thinking that hope I find a new job real soon so we can start to live a normal life
again. This is very stressful too. Been searching like crazy for new jobs but still haven't heard anything from anyone. I hope someone call me soon.

Just wanted to let you all know how this went. Wasn't easy before but now it's even
less easier. And I've start to wonder if I did the biggest mistake in my life when I stopped to work in the gas station. Maybe I should had suffered and continue to work
there even if I hated the place so we would not be broke now. Been thinking about
these thing back and forth everyday.

I just hope you all understand why I did this decision. Wasn't easy, but I had now
other choice. Juho and many of my friends understood and supported me in my
hard decision to quit working in the gas station.

Now I can only pray that I find a new job soon.
 

FlakeNoir

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Apr 11, 2006
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I am without work at this moment. I couldn't work in the gas station, was too
difficult and I lost my appetite and my sleep because I had to stressful in the work.
So I called my boss on Saturday and told her that I won't come to work anymore.
She was OK with it just told me that it's your decision and accepted it. I also told
her how stressful it is to work and that I don't think about anything else than work
while I am off. And also that I suffer from anxiety. And everything this because I had
to work in the gas station. I also been crying a lot lately.

Now I and Juho living a hard time. We don't have much money and all money
we get we must save so we can pay all bills. Juho is working and get money every
month. But I don't get much money and have my critters to take care of. Must buy
food for them and we need some food as well. I'm sitting home during the days and
just thinking that hope I find a new job real soon so we can start to live a normal life
again. This is very stressful too. Been searching like crazy for new jobs but still haven't heard anything from anyone. I hope someone call me soon.

Just wanted to let you all know how this went. Wasn't easy before but now it's even
less easier. And I've start to wonder if I did the biggest mistake in my life when I stopped to work in the gas station. Maybe I should had suffered and continue to work
there even if I hated the place so we would not be broke now. Been thinking about
these thing back and forth everyday.

I just hope you all understand why I did this decision. Wasn't easy, but I had now
other choice. Juho and many of my friends understood and supported me in my
hard decision to quit working in the gas station.

Now I can only pray that I find a new job soon.
(((Jojo))) I'm sorry to hear things have been so bad.

What about the postal gig you talked about before, maybe try that?
 

do1you9love?

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Feb 18, 2012
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((Jojo)) So sorry you are going through this. I have been in your spot before. Just after my husband and I got married, the job I had turned from Customer Service - existing customers calling me to buy products, to a cold calling position which meant I called folks out of the blue and tried to sell them stuff. Not my personality at all and I was also becoming way stressed out. I made the decision to quit and just stayed home for a month, cleaning and cooking because we couldn't afford to go out. Then I got a job as a temporary office worker, which lead me to where I still work 20 years later, full time.

So, the moral of the story is, your health is very important and you did the right thing. Keep looking, keep doing all you can at your and Juho's place, and things will get better! Does your family member (was it your uncle?) still have anything for you?

Best of luck to you, dear!!
 

GNTLGNT

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Jun 15, 2007
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....Jo, do not second guess your decision...working at a job that produces that negative of a reaction will kill you bit by bit...and I understand that monetarily things are desperate, but if you need help-I would be more than happy to start a collection, and pass the hat amongst your Board family to help out until you get another paycheck coming in...never forget, we are Ka-Tet, which means we leave no one in dire straits...we have your back, and I hope knowing that eases your fears a bit...
 

Spideyman

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Jul 10, 2006
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Johanna, you did what you needed to do for your health and mental well being. You can not work in an environment that is negative to your spirit. Prayers and positive vibes are sent your way. The right job will come your way. Contact all your old friends, see if they know of any jobs that might be available. It will all work out. I think each of us has gone through a period when money was very little. Think positive and that job will come. You need your health and well being. Love and green lights!
 

danie

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Feb 26, 2008
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....Jo, do not second guess your decision...working at a job that produces that negative of a reaction will kill you bit by bit...and I understand that monetarily things are desperate, but if you need help-I would be more than happy to start a collection, and pass the hat amongst your Board family to help out until you get another paycheck coming in...never forget, we are Ka-Tet, which means we leave no one in dire straits...we have your back, and I hope knowing that eases your fears a bit...
Jojo87 , so sorry for this difficult time you're going through.
Scott, send the hat my way; I'll be glad to help out.
 

staropeace

Richard Bachman's love child
Nov 28, 2006
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Alberta,Canada
I have worked at stressful jobs that I knew were not meant for me, too. No shame in quitting at all. It is almost impossible to work when feeling this way. You did your best and you will do your best again. Gain back a bit of confidence and pat yourself on the back for trying so hard. Hope you find another job soon. Good luck, my dear.
 

BeverleyMarsh

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Jul 23, 2010
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Hey Jojo87, I'm very sorry to hear the hard times you're going through, and I completely understand you're scared you might not have taken the right decision, taking any decision like that is scary but I think if you've recognised that this job was getting to you and your health, you have done the right thing and you should pat yourself on the back for it. I'm sure something will come along soon enough and then you'll be happy you took the risk. We're rooting for you, keep your head high, you'll be fine. Big hug
 

mal

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Jun 23, 2007
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....Jo, do not second guess your decision...working at a job that produces that negative of a reaction will kill you bit by bit...and I understand that monetarily things are desperate, but if you need help-I would be more than happy to start a collection, and pass the hat amongst your Board family to help out until you get another paycheck coming in...never forget, we are Ka-Tet, which means we leave no one in dire straits...we have your back, and I hope knowing that eases your fears a bit...
Howdy GNTLGNT, You are a good man. If the hat gets passed then definitely count me in. I'm not a rich guy but I am working and have a bit of money to spare. These collective activities are inspiring. I'm glad no one needs to run a marathon or wear a pin to contribute.
 

mjs9153

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Nov 21, 2014
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So sorry things are stressful Jo,but maybe it is a good thing you left there..think about who you are,and what you like,and search for jobs in those areas,I see you have critters and like them,perhaps,stop in to an animal shelter and see if they need some kind of help? Just to start out.. best wishes that you find your dream job..
 

Neesy

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May 24, 2012
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I am without work at this moment. I couldn't work in the gas station, was too
difficult and I lost my appetite and my sleep because I had to stressful in the work.
So I called my boss on Saturday and told her that I won't come to work anymore.
She was OK with it just told me that it's your decision and accepted it. I also told
her how stressful it is to work and that I don't think about anything else than work
while I am off. And also that I suffer from anxiety. And everything this because I had
to work in the gas station. I also been crying a lot lately.

Now I and Juho living a hard time. We don't have much money and all money
we get we must save so we can pay all bills. Juho is working and get money every
month. But I don't get much money and have my critters to take care of. Must buy
food for them and we need some food as well. I'm sitting home during the days and
just thinking that hope I find a new job real soon so we can start to live a normal life
again. This is very stressful too. Been searching like crazy for new jobs but still haven't heard anything from anyone. I hope someone call me soon.

Just wanted to let you all know how this went. Wasn't easy before but now it's even
less easier. And I've start to wonder if I did the biggest mistake in my life when I stopped to work in the gas station. Maybe I should had suffered and continue to work
there even if I hated the place so we would not be broke now. Been thinking about
these thing back and forth everyday.

I just hope you all understand why I did this decision. Wasn't easy, but I had now
other choice. Juho and many of my friends understood and supported me in my
hard decision to quit working in the gas station.

Now I can only pray that I find a new job soon.

Take a well deserved break. Maybe go see your doctor to see if he/she can help you?

I know in Canada if we are unable to work we can collect Employment Insurance (not sure what it is like in Finland).
This is probably just a temporary phase until you find your footing again.

Best of luck and try not to worry too much. :love_heart::angel::cheerful: