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Todash

Free spirit. Curly girl. Cookie eater. Proud SJW.
Aug 19, 2006
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My biggies (that I've received):
"Never be ashamed to be smart." Any smarticle girls out there of a comparable age (40s) will know what I mean.
I know exactly what you mean.
"You don't have to like everyone in the world, but you can always be polite."
I've read this: "Being nice to someone you dislike doesn't mean you're a fake. It means you are mature enough to tolerate your dislike towards them." Kind of the same thing. (Although if you pretend someone is actually your friend and then talk a lot of smack about that person behind her back ... you're a fake.)
"Be kind."
e.e.cummings' "To be nobody but yourself" was a source of great solace when I was younger:
One of my favorite, favorite things.
 

blunthead

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Aug 2, 2006
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I think I just invented a new dance... kind of a bastardised hip-hop/ballet thing... inspired by some of the videos I posted last night. Flashdance/footloose etc)

Oh.. you won't see my dance, I was just doing it here in the kitchen while I was moderating. :laugh:
That's because bastardizing while moderating is against the rules.
 

Grandpa

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"The most important thing in your life is to be happy." My high school football coach.

"Stop apologizing. People don't want apologies. They want performance." A dear if candid friend. Not always true, but true enough.
Same friend: "Oh. Jealousy. A bad feeling that I decided I didn't want to have anymore." It changed my life.

"Don't burn bridges." A good friend. I was preparing to write up the resignation letter that I desperately needed to express, but I took the advice, just wrote, "Thank you for the opportunity. I am resigning to pursue my goals another way," and my former boss and I are still friends.

"You don't lose taking the high road." Not always true but, again, true enough.

"I've found the secret of success. You work your a$$ off, be honest, and do better than your competition." Yup.
 

skimom2

Just moseyin' through...
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"Stop apologizing. People don't want apologies. They want performance."

That reminded me of one of my absolute favorite quotes from one of my favorite movies:

"Stop talking about love. Every a**hole in the world says he loves somebody. It means nothing. What you feel only matters to you. It's what you do to the people you say you love, that's what matters. It's the only thing that counts."

That, my friends, is GREAT advice.
 

SusanNorton

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There is a lot of good stuff here!

Some of my favorite advice comes from something written by Nora Ephron, "What I Wish I'd Known." I've always adored her. And, she wrote this toward the end of her life, which gives it a little more weight.

People have only one way to be.

Buy, don't rent.

Never marry a man you wouldn't want to be divorced from.

Don't cover a couch with anything that isn't more or less beige.

Don't buy anything that is 100 per cent wool even if it seems to be very soft and not particularly itchy when you try it on in the store.

You can't be friends with people who call after 11 p.m.

Block everyone on your instant mail.

The world's greatest babysitter burns out after two and a half years.

You never know.

The last four years of psychoanalysis are a waste of money.

The plane is not going to crash.

Anything you think is wrong with your body at the age of 35 you will be nostalgic for at the age of 45.

At the age of 55 you will get a saggy roll just above your waist even if you are painfully thin.

This saggy roll just above your waist will be especially visible from the back and will force you to re-evaluate half the clothes in your closet, especially the white shirts.

Write everything down.

Keep a journal.

Take more pictures.

The empty nest is underrated.

You can order more than one dessert.

You can't own too many black turtleneck sweaters.

If the shoe doesn't fit in the shoe store, it's never going to fit.

When your children are teenagers, it's important to have a dog so that someone in the house is happy to see you.

Back up your files.

Overinsure everything.

Whenever someone says the words, "Our friendship is more important than this," watch out, because it almost never is.

There's no point in making piecrust from scratch.

The reason you're waking up in the middle of the night is the second glass of wine.

The minute you decide to get divorced, go see a lawyer and file the papers.

Overtip.

Never let them know.

If only one-third of your clothes are mistakes, you're ahead of the game.

If friends ask you to be their child's guardian in case they die in a plane crash, you can say no.

There are no secrets.