I can't believe it has been 40 years now. I wonder what his life would have been like now.
Have you ever lost your mind?
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Have you ever lost your mind?
You're asking the wrong person.
You're asking the wrong person.
...obviously you had a rank banana hammock novice fit your fur lined jockstrap...I think it's more the fur-lined jock strap that the folks have come to love.I'm so over the craziness of the season. It's not fun anymore. I would enjoy it more but I just don't have them time at work to even breath anymore, and not just at this time of year, it's all of the time. I need to find a new job but now that I have been diagnosed with a hernia I have to stay until I have my operation and recuperate. Wish me luck!
...bring it on in Holly and Pegasus....big Giant hugs await...don't know what else to offer....
((((Holly)))) I am happy you are starting to feel better.
((((Pegasus)))) Big hugs.
((((Pegasus)))) Big hugs.
Sending hugs to Holly!
Thanks for the hugs for me.
Thanks for the hugs for me.
Stress affects everyone differently and how you cope with it depends a great deal on how you've internalized the stress and the factors causing it. Pulling yourself up by the bootstraps, so to speak, is the solution that most people tend to offer but for some people, myself included, this is equivalent to trying to bail water out of a ship after its gone under. It's impossible to explain to others how you feel when you're in crisis. No one can trade places with you to see exactly how the situation is effecting you personally so sometimes the only thing you can do is ride it out. I've never found any magic solution to handling stress and I've been as about as far down as you could go. The only thing that kept me sane was turning my depression into anger. Not the most healthy solution, I'll admit that, but sometimes a mediocre solution now is better than no solution at all. It doesn't make you the most pleasant person to be around but anger, at least for me, is something that can be dealt with, exercised, ran, written, insert your method of dealing with anger here. Turning your brain off is a hard task, it doesn't tend to behave like you want it to a lot of the time, but I've found that tiring it out can sometimes at least allow you get a good night's sleep which can get you another mile down the road. Sometimes that's about as good as you can do. If you keep making it another mile, or quarter of a mile, or half a mile, eventually time and perspective will allow you a respite from your crisis. We were always told "Better to be pissed off and working than thinking." Anyway, take care of yourself.
Oh y'all - you always have some wise words and kind hearts to lift me up.
Mantor You're right, evil is very personal - as personal as good. He almost pulled me under. (says the Indigo Girl's song).
pegasus216 - Oh honey, that's the worst, losing a child. It's every parent's fear and you've lived through it. God bless you, baby. I don't think it's something you could ever get over. Way less than that has broken me. You're courageous and strong.
GNTLGNT I'll take that giant hug. The Ogre is doing the best he can with me - sometimes there's just nothing else you can do. How's Tracy? She was very candid here about her struggles. I know she knows what this is like.
ghost19 Thank you elusive friend for coming here to say all that. Good advice. It is hard when I know the bathrooms need to be scrubbed, but I cannot get out of my head long enough to do anything. I'm like: let the mold crawl up the wall, I need to sit and worry about this for a few more hours. And then suddenly weeks have gone by, and I'm still crazy and nothing else has changed.
Mantor You're right, evil is very personal - as personal as good. He almost pulled me under. (says the Indigo Girl's song).
pegasus216 - Oh honey, that's the worst, losing a child. It's every parent's fear and you've lived through it. God bless you, baby. I don't think it's something you could ever get over. Way less than that has broken me. You're courageous and strong.
GNTLGNT I'll take that giant hug. The Ogre is doing the best he can with me - sometimes there's just nothing else you can do. How's Tracy? She was very candid here about her struggles. I know she knows what this is like.
ghost19 Thank you elusive friend for coming here to say all that. Good advice. It is hard when I know the bathrooms need to be scrubbed, but I cannot get out of my head long enough to do anything. I'm like: let the mold crawl up the wall, I need to sit and worry about this for a few more hours. And then suddenly weeks have gone by, and I'm still crazy and nothing else has changed.
That's just crushing. hugs Mary
Simple tasks ma'am. Wash dishes, do laundry, clean the bathroom. Each task I concentrate on takes me a little further out of my head and keeps me focused on the immediate task at hand. It made me almost OCD about chores, lists, things like that, but I'll take OCD over where I was at any day. On the up note, I keep my wife happy because the house is always clean and the chores are always done. She goes out of her way to tell me thank you and I gladly accept a kiss and a compliment any day, but my constant, never ending routine is as much for my mental health as it is keeping the household going. As long as I'm busy, I know things are alright upstairs. If I start thinking this or that around the house doesn't need to be done or it doesn't matter, I immediately get up and get busy. It's not a perfect solution, but it's worked for several years now so I keep the routine going. Mr. King's books have also worked well in that regard. They allow me to take a vacation from my head and drop into his world for a few hundred pages. Best wishes ma'am.
I don't have exactly your experiences. But there was a period about two years ago when i was very down. Don't know why really. I stp doing stuff, stopped paying the bills, sopped living almost. I ate enough to stay alive and i did neccissities ( but wasahing, cleaning and such things wre not part thereof). After three months i arose, don't know why and discovered that i owed enormous sums of money in every direction. no bills payed in three months! Imagine! Well it is fixed now but then i didn't really care about anything but i was aware of how deep down i was.Do tell, as I think I'm starting to come back to mine. Somehow I've lost nearly a month. It's been a few years since I've gone a bit mad like this. Am I in good company or am I just freaking insane?
...she's still got her daily struggles, but one moment at a time....and the Ogre is just like me I bet...gets frustrated and mad at times-but mostly will bend over and do back-flips for you....
Girl, let me hold your hand. Then let's get up, fake a smile, and dive into what needs to be done; what you CAN do. You can't change others or live their lives for them, and you can't take their pain (no matter how much you'd like to). We'll listen to old time rock and roll, shriek out the lyrics, and bust out those chores, then we'll have a glass (or a bottle) of wine and a good cry. And then we'll do whatever we can to sleep (meds, if necessary; I repeat a rosary until I bore myself to sleep sometimes), and then we'll get up and do it all over again until the smile feels more real, sleep is easy, and there's sunlight in our souls again.
Being human is a challenge sometimes.
Being human is a challenge sometimes.
Well, I'm feeling like I'm in great company - crazies unite! One moment at a time. Quit worrying. It will all unfold as it should and I must relinquish control. God bless the good times, they'll be back soon.
Yes, the Ogre tries, and
It's going to be OK, it's going to be ok.
There's so much to be done. Idle minds are the devil's playground, right?
Yes, the Ogre tries, and
God bless you sweetness. I wish you were right here with me.
It's going to be OK, it's going to be ok.
There's so much to be done. Idle minds are the devil's playground, right?
I think we can 'happen, too much love or too much pain .... but' it is important to try to react, my brother had a pain like that of Pegasus is too hard so ', you can not' accept ...
This thread emphasizes the need for an "I like this whole thread" button. HollyGolightly , best wishes to you and your family. It truly was heartwarming to read how affectionately you spoke of your father-in-law, and I hope he recovers quickly and well. pegasus216, so sorry to hear of your loss; I hope your happy memories outweigh your grief, and send you best wishes too.
Some excellent, well considered & kind advice/comments too. So glad to have joined this community, even if it took me a while!
I have suffered from mental health issues since the pre-teen years, and I can gladly confirm that, while your mileage may vary, you are not alone. Life is problematic, and normal is boring [to me, anyway]; it's no wonder that we need our escape routes & run on autopilot sometimes. A lot of the time, I think the most important thing is to not beat yourself up for the way you feel.
Sending best wishes & hugs to the board, and offering a sympathetic ear to anyone who needs to vent. I see things from every angle, which is good for giving advice...but crap on a day to day basis ;P
This is very true. As I said, to me, "normal" sounds a lot like "boring" Weird for the win!!
Some excellent, well considered & kind advice/comments too. So glad to have joined this community, even if it took me a while!
I have suffered from mental health issues since the pre-teen years, and I can gladly confirm that, while your mileage may vary, you are not alone. Life is problematic, and normal is boring [to me, anyway
]; it's no wonder that we need our escape routes & run on autopilot sometimes. A lot of the time, I think the most important thing is to not beat yourself up for the way you feel.Sending best wishes & hugs to the board, and offering a sympathetic ear to anyone who needs to vent. I see things from every angle, which is good for giving advice...but crap on a day to day basis ;P
This is very true. As I said, to me, "normal" sounds a lot like "boring"
Weird for the win!!
This is the right attitude. Jesus take the wheel. Just remember they didn't have cars back in Jesus day so he can't drive worth a damn. On second thought keep ahold of the wheel. What's going to happen is beyond our control but what's happening right now isn't is the way I truely look at it. It's hard to remember you need to drain the swamp when you are up to your ass in alligators is all. I feel for you. None of us have a lot of control when it comes down to it.
Sanity is just a speed bump for me. I recognize it when I go over it and it does make me slow down a bit but the bumps aren't close enough to make a big difference.