In-Laws.

[Sigmund]

Good Saturday evening.

I want to be the coolest, goodie-rooniest Mother-In-Law ever. That's my plan.

My parents are/were cool in-laws from what I understand. Ha!

For example, when my brothers or I went to my Momma or Daddy complaining about our spouse, they would listen. Listen intently. Nod or shake their head but they never took sides. (Bet you dollars to donuts they probably would have sided with the spouse. They know us too well. )

I have a ton of sisters-in-laws, brothers-in-laws AND their spouses and they love me and support me. And yeah, every now and then, they take me aside and diplomatically tell me I'm an idiot. But they do it with love.

Now, my mother-in-law runs hot and cold. One minute she can be singing my praises and the next? She wouldn't pizz on me if I were on fire. (She's probably the one who set me on fire in the first place.)

What are some of your In-law experiences?

Thank you!

 

[staropeace]

I had no problem with in-laws. The spouses were another thing altogether lol.

 

[ghost19]

Mother-in-law=Fanatical Church of Christ member who is completely convinced that ONLY COC members have the winning powerball ticket when it comes to the next life. Also has convinced herself over the last two decades that if it weren't for me her daughter would have "come back" to the COC fold by now, even though my wife has no interest in religion whatsoever.

She has also sent me several letters over the years since our son was born saying how it's a shame he's going to be going to hell because I won't allow her to have him baptized. What's funny is that the letters all contain the disclaimer "Don't tell my daughter about this letter, this is just for YOUR information". Like there is some sort of confidential agreement between the two of us. I show every one of them to my wife more as comic relief than anything else. As far as historical nutcase behavior, she took my wife's niece and nephew and had both of them baptized without my wife's sister's permission back when they were both around 8 or 9 years old. Who does that?

It's an interesting dynamic at family holidays for sure. She equates an atheist with the "lowest life form on the earth". That's a direct quote from one of our conversations. I've never understood how, as an atheist, I could care less what other people believe and am completely content to let every person believe what they want but am not afforded the same courtesy. It's disturbing but makes it even more so when the person in question is the grandmother of my son. I don't get people who are religious to this extent. Why alienate yourself from your daughter and grandson because of your religious beliefs? Is it worth it? I just don't get it.

 

[Spideyman]

They are both now long deceased. Most negative people I ever met!

 

[Sigmund]

Mother-in-law=Fanatical Church of Christ member who is completely convinced that ONLY COC members have the winning powerball ticket when it comes to the next life. Also has convinced herself over the last two decades that if it weren't for me her daughter would have "come back" to the COC fold by now, even though my wife has no interest in religion whatsoever.

She has also sent me several letters over the years since our son was born saying how it's a shame he's going to be going to hell because I won't allow her to have him baptized. What's funny is that the letters all contain the disclaimer "Don't tell my daughter about this letter, this is just for YOUR information". Like there is some sort of confidential agreement between the two of us. I show every one of them to my wife more as comic relief than anything else. As far as historical nutcase behavior, she took my wife's niece and nephew and had both of them baptized without my wife's sister's permission back when they were both around 8 or 9 years old. Who does that?

It's an interesting dynamic at family holidays for sure. She equates an atheist with the "lowest life form on the earth". That's a direct quote from one of our conversations. I've never understood how, as an atheist, I could care less what other people believe and am completely content to let every person believe what they want but am not afforded the same courtesy. It's disturbing but makes it even more so when the person in question is the grandmother of my son. I don't get people who are religious to this extent. Why alienate yourself from your daughter and grandson because of your religious beliefs? Is it worth it? I just don't get it.

Hey sir Ghost!

My mother-in-law is Catholic. Every Sunday morning she is in church. Sitting in her pew talking smack and throwing shade on other parishioners. (That dress Mrs. Rodriguez is wearing? She's had that dress for three years now! Mrs. Juarez doesn't know those ear rings her husband gave her are a guilt gift 'cause he's been fooling around with old Widow Jones.) I feel bad for anyone sitting near her. That bolt of lightning striking her down is going to cause collateral damage.

Have a good one, Ghost!

 

[Sigmund]

They are both now long deceased. Most negative people I ever met!

Hey Spidey! I'm so sorry.

My parents taught me a lot. They really are cool mother in law and father in law.(Daddy is gone now but...)

If they are going to cut anyone some slack, they'll give our spouse the benefit of the doubt.

>>hugs<<

 

[Shoesalesman]

I get along with my in-laws. Religious folks, but that's okay. I'm not. Whatever works for them, right? We respectfully talk about other stuff. They keep their beliefs to themselves and I don't judge. I keep the horror and Metal off the radar and they don't judge either. I'm a great husband & father and they're great parents & grandparents. My sister and brother in-laws? Wonderful people, too. We have a blast whenever we all get together. I'm lucky to have them, compared to other people's in-laws.

 

[80sFan]

My MIL pretty much ignores us and that's fine with me. She'll usually come up for an overnight in the summer and brings a bunch of the other grandchildren with her. She then proceeds to have a cigarette in one hand and her phone in the other for the duration of her stay while I get stuck watching all the kids and listening to my husband complain about everyone running in and out from the pool constantly tracking water everywhere. Fun times.
Sometimes one of my SIL comes and and even though 3 of the children are hers, she's no better at keeping an eye on them than grandma is. Except her cigarette is dangling from her mouth while she holds her phone and Mountain Dew (this is the SIL whose posts are good fodder for the Grammar Nazi board).
When they leave, my husband is muttering bad words while picking up dozens of cigarette butts they leave in our driveway (even though we put an ashtray outside for them).
The other many SIL we haven't seen in quite a few years are actually less classy than the Mountain Dew one.

 

[ghost19]

Hey sir Ghost!

My mother-in-law is Catholic. Every Sunday morning she is in church. Sitting in her pew talking smack and throwing shade on other parishioners. (That dress Mrs. Rodriguez is wearing? She's had that dress for three years now! Mrs. Juarez doesn't know those ear rings her husband gave her are a guilt gift 'cause he's been fooling around with old Widow Jones.) I feel bad for anyone sitting near her. That bolt of lightning striking her down is going to cause collateral damage.

Have a good one, Ghost!

You too Sig. If my MIL wasn't my MIL, I would have nothing to do with her whatsoever..lol

 

[skimom2]

I'm trying to be positive for Lent, so all I have to say is: "Bless their hearts"

 

[AnnaMarie]

It truly makes me sad to read so many people do not have good relationships with in-laws.

Both my in-laws were ordained ministers. I remember talking to MIL one time about a friend who was having problems with family telling her if only she had "enough" faith God would cure her. She laughed and said she dared anyone to accuse her of not having "enough" faith. And then she told me about her and FIL praying for God to cure me of my allergies. And eventually they realized that God was not going to do that. So they changed to praying that God would help me to learn to live with these allergies and get back to being the happy person I had been before developing them. (We talked about when....and it was shortly after they changed their prayer when I came to the realization that if I didn't learn to live with my allergies I would die from them. You can believe what you want....I believe that prayer was answered.)

Over the years, we did have some disagreements. I had been very upset because our kids did not get the attention (and it appeared love) her other grandchildren got. We saw them only a few times a year, but her other grandkids saw her every week. Her doctor had insisted she only visit with grandkids every two weeks due to her health. We went to visit and all she did was complain about not being able to see her grandbabies for two weeks. Suddenly she stopped and turned to me and she said "that must sound so horrible to you. But I don't worry about your kids. i know they have two loving parents who take care of them. I don't know that about my other grandkids." Hard to stay mad when your MIL just said you're a good mom. Lol

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Now I'm the MIL. And I started by NOT telling them what to do or how to do it. I willingly babysit and though I joke about taking them for haircuts I'd never do it. (Not a grandparents place to do things like that.)

I don't tell them how my children did such-and-such at a younger age. I don't criticize or look for negative things.

Even ex-DIL, I never say a negative thing about her in front of her kids. (She does not show the same respect to me....but I still refuse to stoop to her level.) And while she and my son were together I held back from saying what I often wanted to.

 

[Kurben]

My Mother in law has showered me with love since we met. Although Paradise is dead now she still treats me like a son . She went a little crazy when Paradise died, not quite throwing herself on the coffin but close, but thats ok. My Sisters in law are all Very nice too. I guess i was lucky. I would be lucker still if Paradise was still alive.

 

[not_nadine]

Oh, Kurben. hugs

 

[mcpon14]

I personally really do not like my brother-in-law. He called the cops on me and lied to them saying that I was raging when I wasn't. The cops took their side and had me give my computer to them (him and my sister). All I wanted was my computer back but I wasn't out of control like he claimed on the phone. Another time, he was skateboarding in the house causing a disturbance. And yet another time, he was shooting a BB gun at my bedroom door just because I was in there. What a jerk.

 

[Jojo87]

I have wonderful in-laws. Especially my mother-in-law she is a nice person and we always have great conversations. My father-in-law he is
funny and tell sometimes very good jokes that all laugh about. I am so luck to have a great man that I love and wonderful in-laws.

 

[danie]

My Mother in law has showered me with love since we met. Although Paradise is dead now she still treats me like a son . She went a little crazy when Paradise died, not quite throwing herself on the coffin but close, but thats ok. My Sisters in law are all Very nice too. I guess i was lucky. I would be lucker still if Paradise was still alive.

((((Kurben)))) And how lucky Paradise was to have had you for a husband.

 

[Out of Order]

 

[HollyGolightly]

My father in law was the most amazing man. I lost my own daddy to lung cancer when I was 18 and I married the Ogre when I was 21. His dad took over as my dad and took very good care of me. I miss him and need him so much - especially right now. He always knew what to do. He always could see the bright side, make us laugh, let us know that everything would be OK in time.

My mother in law is prickly. Even my husband says she's like a porcupine. I love her though. I'd help her however she needed. If I needed help, she'd throw some money my way, so long as she didn't have to do anything. But she'd keep a tally on it. Best not to need her help.

My sister in law is my closest friend. I'm blessed to have her in my life. Her husband is goofy - literally but not in a bad way, just in a goofy "oh look a birdie" kind of way.

I don't want my children to get married or have children. I'll be a horrible mother in law and grandmother.

 

[Spideyman]

My Mother in law has showered me with love since we met. Although Paradise is dead now she still treats me like a son . She went a little crazy when Paradise died, not quite throwing herself on the coffin but close, but thats ok. My Sisters in law are all Very nice too. I guess i was lucky. I would be lucker still if Paradise was still alive.

(((Kurben)))

 

[TheRedQueen]

The only in-law I'll have anything to do with is my sister in law. She's batty as anything, but she's a cool person and definitely a strength for my husband. She actually approves of me, too. So I guess that's nice.
She lives pretty far from us though, so we don't get to see her very often.