Good to see you back lina. I always say follow your heart.
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Neesy
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I have just run across this now and have not seen anyone else's thoughts but my advice would be to go with your gut instincts. If something is telling you that 'something's not right' then trust your feelings.
Don't jump into a live-in situation if he is hesitant. Maybe there is more to the story than meets the eye i.e could he perhaps be holding back something from you?
Sorry - I did not mean he has someone else - maybe he is afraid of commitment for whatever reason - past heartaches, etc. That's all I meant!
Good luck and I wish you and your guy all good things 
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I was thinking the same thing, not necessarily assuming he is holding something back; I'm simply realizing that young men are notorious for having cold feet when it comes to romantic commitment. I think it's a mistake to move in with him because he is showing signs of hesitation when it comes to your feelings and concerns, being unwilling to meet you halfway.
Neesy's question can be asked from two angles, the second of which occurs to me now: Maybe he is holding something back - himself. I think he may need you to give him time and space to make this serious decision about the future, yours and his together as well as individually, that if he's sincere he will appreciate your doing that. Meanwhile, let him realize the ball is in his court, that moving in with him at this time is not an option for you, and that he must decide. I encourage you not to be afraid of that decision. He eventually has to make it, with you living there or not. I think moving in with him will reinforce his indecision.
I think you are right, he is just young and it's a difficult decision for him. But I am sure he is not holding back anything, I know him too well. I am absolutely sure about his feelings. The biggest problem now is not him, as I understand he is not ready to marry yet. The problem is my parents, they will not allow us to live together and it will end bad because of them. I don't have the best relationship with my parents, they ruined too many things in my life. And now they are standing in my way, because I can be happy only with him and their traditional views are not modern at all and it can just ruin everything (not only with this guy, by the way! I doubt there is a guy who is willing to marry in such short notice!) My aunt tries to tell my mom that now time is different and it's perfectly normal to live with a guy, but my parents are just too stubborn. There is not way I can persuade them to let me live my life and make my own mistakes...
If you really want to live with him (despite your doubts), please explain how your parents can stop you?
The Nameless
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Nice to see you back lina, your sadness makes me sad. I wish I could offer some experienced advice but I can't, I've never been in that situation. I will offer this advice though (sorry if it's not what you want to hear) - marriage seldom works if both parties are not 100% ready for it. If your guy is not ready, put it on the shelf for a bit. You need to have a difficult talk with your family and tell them that they also have to compromise a bit. A living together trial seems to be the best thing for you and your guy, and your parents should see that what they want isn't right for you 2. It looks like the best thing to do might be to move in together and discuss marriage again in 6-12 months.
They won't allow this, simply like that... Unfortunately there would be little we could do against them.
Well, anyway, things kind of got better today
Honestly, a lot better, now I feel great and I think everything's gonna be just fine. I think I underestimated my guy, for a few days I really doubted it could work out and I was afraid we would have to break up in the end... We had a great weekend, a very happy St. Valentine's Day (he has done everything to make it a great day for me) and today he said he thought about the situation we are in and decided I was right and he was wrong. He said as soon as things settle down at work (we hope it will take some month or two) he will propose to me. He said it is the right thing to do for our sake and he realized he wants it, too. 
I was so happy to hear such words... We hope that parents will be okay with the idea, too. We will come to them officially, saying about our decision. We hope it will be alright for everyone this way.
So again, thank you all for your support and all the words of advice! That's very helpful! It all helped me to get through the last week, that was really like hell for me.
Lina keep us updated. I hope it all works out for you. You deserve to be happy.
Lina, good to see you back. There is a lot of sensible advice here. Follow your gut. Keepthings they way they are until t feels right. If it's meant to be it will. Don't force anything, but be prepared to work at it. Wishing you all the best and keep in touch.
The Nameless
M-O-O-N - That spells Nameless
I'm glad things are looking up for you lina, you deserve to be happy.
And when you are engaged you still have between a year or two before marriage. I wish you all the best!
I'm not so good with advice in matters of love. I think perhaps the most important things are to be absolutely true to yourself, don't talk yourself into something because you want to make it fit.
If it is right, it is. If it is wrong, there will be signs... it is so important not to close your eyes to those signs because guess what? Being young and having (unlimited) opportunities only lasts for a very short space of time--who knew that all of those adults were right?!
Be patient in your decisions, Lina and try to mix head and heart together, because I think the best choices are made when you use both.
I wish you so much happiness in your life, I really do. xox
If it is right, it is. If it is wrong, there will be signs... it is so important not to close your eyes to those signs because guess what? Being young and having (unlimited) opportunities only lasts for a very short space of time--who knew that all of those adults were right?!
Be patient in your decisions, Lina and try to mix head and heart together, because I think the best choices are made when you use both.
I wish you so much happiness in your life, I really do. xox
Sending positive vibes and guidance that your parents will see the more modern way.
Neesy
#1 fan (Annie Wilkes cousin) 1st cousin Mom's side
They won't allow this, simply like that... Unfortunately there would be little we could do against them.
Well, anyway, things kind of got better today
We hope that parents will be okay with the idea, too. We will come to them officially, saying about our decision. We hope it will be alright for everyone this way.
So again, thank you all for your support and all the words of advice! That's very helpful! It all helped me to get through the last week, that was really like hell for me.
He said as soon as things settle down at work (we hope it will take some month or two) he will propose to me. He said it is the right thing to do for our sake
Oh wow! he must really love you very much - I am so happy that it worked out well for everyone in the end. Your parents must be very traditional. Congratulations Lina - I wish you both the best!
Yeah, about this I am sure... I have never hoped I would be able to find such love for me, it makes me really happy!Thank you, guys, for your kind words and all the support!