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Motivation - ugh. Many years ago I wanted to stop smoking, but since I was young and healthy it was hard to convince myself that there would someday be consequences. It was finally out of vanity that I quit - I hated smelling like an ashtray.
Last year I wanted to lose weight, but couldn't find the motivation. In my twenties I was motivated by the search for a romantic partner, but now I've been married 20+ years and my husband didn't seem to mind that I looked like a turnip. I minded, but couldn't stick to anything. I decided to invent an imaginary boyfriend that I'd be meeting for the first time a few months down the road. However, I'm not that stupid. So then, I decided I needed to find someone local to have a "crush" on - a real, live person who I'd really run into every few weeks. Well, this really worked! I chose someone who I found totally unattractive (because I didn't want to really have a crush on someone), and made it like a game - it became easier to stick to the diet plan knowing I'd see this guy every couple of weeks, and even though he looked like a turnip, it was a victory when I realized that I was 5-10 pounds lighter whenever I saw him. But then, guess what? I wound up really getting a crush on him - he was a turnip, but very smart and funny. That was okay, it only added to the motivation. But then I started blushing furiously whenever I ran into him at the Winn Dixie, and it just caused me a lot of embarrassment (not to mention guilt, because I'm married). So then, I had to convince myself that although I was 25+ pounds thinner, it was totally unacceptable for me to have a crush on someone I had to see around town - I'd have to try to go back to believing that Clive Owen was my boyfriend, which didn't work, and I gained 15 pounds.
So, my "Imaginary Boyfriend Diet" was a fail. Any advice on finding and keeping motivation would be appreciated!
Motivation - ugh. Many years ago I wanted to stop smoking, but since I was young and healthy it was hard to convince myself that there would someday be consequences. It was finally out of vanity that I quit - I hated smelling like an ashtray.
Last year I wanted to lose weight, but couldn't find the motivation. In my twenties I was motivated by the search for a romantic partner, but now I've been married 20+ years and my husband didn't seem to mind that I looked like a turnip. I minded, but couldn't stick to anything. I decided to invent an imaginary boyfriend that I'd be meeting for the first time a few months down the road. However, I'm not that stupid. So then, I decided I needed to find someone local to have a "crush" on - a real, live person who I'd really run into every few weeks. Well, this really worked! I chose someone who I found totally unattractive (because I didn't want to really have a crush on someone), and made it like a game - it became easier to stick to the diet plan knowing I'd see this guy every couple of weeks, and even though he looked like a turnip, it was a victory when I realized that I was 5-10 pounds lighter whenever I saw him. But then, guess what? I wound up really getting a crush on him - he was a turnip, but very smart and funny. That was okay, it only added to the motivation. But then I started blushing furiously whenever I ran into him at the Winn Dixie, and it just caused me a lot of embarrassment (not to mention guilt, because I'm married). So then, I had to convince myself that although I was 25+ pounds thinner, it was totally unacceptable for me to have a crush on someone I had to see around town - I'd have to try to go back to believing that Clive Owen was my boyfriend, which didn't work, and I gained 15 pounds.
So, my "Imaginary Boyfriend Diet" was a fail. Any advice on finding and keeping motivation would be appreciated!
That was great.Motivation - ugh. Many years ago I wanted to stop smoking, but since I was young and healthy it was hard to convince myself that there would someday be consequences. It was finally out of vanity that I quit - I hated smelling like an ashtray.
Last year I wanted to lose weight, but couldn't find the motivation. In my twenties I was motivated by the search for a romantic partner, but now I've been married 20+ years and my husband didn't seem to mind that I looked like a turnip. I minded, but couldn't stick to anything. I decided to invent an imaginary boyfriend that I'd be meeting for the first time a few months down the road. However, I'm not that stupid. So then, I decided I needed to find someone local to have a "crush" on - a real, live person who I'd really run into every few weeks. Well, this really worked! I chose someone who I found totally unattractive (because I didn't want to really have a crush on someone), and made it like a game - it became easier to stick to the diet plan knowing I'd see this guy every couple of weeks, and even though he looked like a turnip, it was a victory when I realized that I was 5-10 pounds lighter whenever I saw him. But then, guess what? I wound up really getting a crush on him - he was a turnip, but very smart and funny. That was okay, it only added to the motivation. But then I started blushing furiously whenever I ran into him at the Winn Dixie, and it just caused me a lot of embarrassment (not to mention guilt, because I'm married). So then, I had to convince myself that although I was 25+ pounds thinner, it was totally unacceptable for me to have a crush on someone I had to see around town - I'd have to try to go back to believing that Clive Owen was my boyfriend, which didn't work, and I gained 15 pounds.
So, my "Imaginary Boyfriend Diet" was a fail. Any advice on finding and keeping motivation would be appreciated!
I got all excited thinking you'd given me my magic pill for dieting as I'm in a similar predicament with already having a partner who's fine with me as I am. But after reading the rest of your story (hilarious as always BTW), realize I'm going to have to go back to square one which means digging out the Weight Watchers program material (I, too, am a lifetime member who's fallen off the wagon) and do it the old-fashioned way, i.e. eat the right foods in an appropriate portion size, drink more water, and exercise. BummerMotivation - ugh. Many years ago I wanted to stop smoking, but since I was young and healthy it was hard to convince myself that there would someday be consequences. It was finally out of vanity that I quit - I hated smelling like an ashtray.
Last year I wanted to lose weight, but couldn't find the motivation. In my twenties I was motivated by the search for a romantic partner, but now I've been married 20+ years and my husband didn't seem to mind that I looked like a turnip. I minded, but couldn't stick to anything. I decided to invent an imaginary boyfriend that I'd be meeting for the first time a few months down the road. However, I'm not that stupid. So then, I decided I needed to find someone local to have a "crush" on - a real, live person who I'd really run into every few weeks. Well, this really worked! I chose someone who I found totally unattractive (because I didn't want to really have a crush on someone), and made it like a game - it became easier to stick to the diet plan knowing I'd see this guy every couple of weeks, and even though he looked like a turnip, it was a victory when I realized that I was 5-10 pounds lighter whenever I saw him. But then, guess what? I wound up really getting a crush on him - he was a turnip, but very smart and funny. That was okay, it only added to the motivation. But then I started blushing furiously whenever I ran into him at the Winn Dixie, and it just caused me a lot of embarrassment (not to mention guilt, because I'm married). So then, I had to convince myself that although I was 25+ pounds thinner, it was totally unacceptable for me to have a crush on someone I had to see around town - I'd have to try to go back to believing that Clive Owen was my boyfriend, which didn't work, and I gained 15 pounds.
So, my "Imaginary Boyfriend Diet" was a fail. Any advice on finding and keeping motivation would be appreciated!
All I got out of it was hope that a guy who looks like a troll but can whip up some form of jokes and knowledge can still have a chance.I got all excited thinking you'd given me my magic pill for dieting as I'm in a similar predicament with already having a partner who's fine with me as I am. But after reading the rest of your story (hilarious as always BTW), realize I'm going to have to go back to square one which means digging out the Weight Watchers program material (I, too, am a lifetime member who's fallen off the wagon) and do it the old-fashioned way, i.e. eat the right foods in an appropriate portion size, drink more water, and exercise. Bummer