Regrets

[mjs9153]

If only..we were all as cool as JohnD..miss his writing.As much as his advice on regrets is spot on,I can't help it,I do have them..once,I made a mistake in my job.And I think,if I had followed what my heart was telling me,I could have maybe saved a man's life..but I didn't,and he died.Probably wouldn't have made a difference,but still..having saved some lives,and seeing the lost ones,have found it is true what some say,that it is not the lives that you have saved that you remember the most,but those you lost..

 

[mjs9153]

Try this link. There aren't a lot of posts, but some bring back great memories.
StephenKing.com Message Board

Thanks for that link Danie,it is great to even just see some of the old names..my God,how time does fly..

 

[danie]

Thanks for that link Danie,it is great to even just see some of the old names..my God,how time does fly..

I know; it all seems so long ago.

 

[PatInTheHat]

You're right (and made me cry). Thanks for being you, Pat.

Aw don't cry, you'll make me cry, and big boys don't cry..well yeah if Ol' Yeller's on, but then if Ol' Yeller don't make ya cry, your likely defective
And you, your too sweet!

 

[HollyGolightly]

I regret most everything from 1997 - today, with a couple of exceptions.
Pretty sad, I know.

(((danie))) big hug for you girl. I think you're awesome!

Regrets, of course. I'm learning not to dwell and ruminate on them. Our minds are geared to try and fix things, and you can't change the past. Let it roll through you, give it it's moment, learn from it, let it go, do better because of it.

 

[skimom2]

Not a lot, because what's happened to us, good or bad, makes us what we are now. I decided regrets and guilt were wasted time, a long time ago. There are a couple of things I've had a harder time getting rid of, though.

1) When I was in high school, there was a guy in my debate class that just adored me. I wasn't all that and a big of chips, so it should have been flattering. Instead, one day when he came and sat next to me, my mouth got away with me. I huffed loudly and said, "Oh, crap!", to which my buddy replied, "Let's move." There weren't a lot of people around, but there were definitely people who heard the whole thing. Cruelest thing I've ever done to anyone, and if I could go back and change that one thing, I would.

2) The night before my dad died, I was at my parents' house with the kids, chatting. When it was time to leave, my dad was out on the deck, smoking. I was busy bundling up kids (it was Feb), so instead of going out to tell him goodnight and give him a hug, I yelled, "Bye, Dad!" at the back of his head. If I could only change one thing, I'd change that.

 

[danie]

Aw don't cry, you'll make me cry, and big boys don't cry..well yeah if Ol' Yeller's on, but then if Ol' Yeller don't make ya cry, your likely defective
And you, your too sweet!

I remember finishing that book and crying so hard in my mother's arms. I would give anything to go back to that day.

 

[danie]

(((danie))) big hug for you girl. I think you're awesome!

Regrets, of course. I'm learning not to dwell and ruminate on them. Our minds are geared to try and fix things, and you can't change the past. Let it roll through you, give it it's moment, learn from it, let it go, do better because of it.

Thanks, Holly. You are a jewel.

 

[danie]

Not a lot, because what's happened to us, good or bad, makes us what we are now. I decided regrets and guilt were wasted time, a long time ago. There are a couple of things I've had a harder time getting rid of, though.

1) When I was in high school, there was a guy in my debate class that just adored me. I wasn't all that and a big of chips, so it should have been flattering. Instead, one day when he came and sat next to me, my mouth got away with me. I huffed loudly and said, "Oh, crap!", to which my buddy replied, "Let's move." There weren't a lot of people around, but there were definitely people who heard the whole thing. Cruelest thing I've ever done to anyone, and if I could go back and change that one thing, I would.

2) The night before my dad died, I was at my parents' house with the kids, chatting. When it was time to leave, my dad was out on the deck, smoking. I was busy bundling up kids (it was Feb), so instead of going out to tell him goodnight and give him a hug, I yelled, "Bye, Dad!" at the back of his head. If I could only change one thing, I'd change that.

Now you're making me cry more...(((skimom)))

 

[mjs9153]

Not a lot, because what's happened to us, good or bad, makes us what we are now. I decided regrets and guilt were wasted time, a long time ago. There are a couple of things I've had a harder time getting rid of, though.

1) When I was in high school, there was a guy in my debate class that just adored me. I wasn't all that and a big of chips, so it should have been flattering. Instead, one day when he came and sat next to me, my mouth got away with me. I huffed loudly and said, "Oh, crap!", to which my buddy replied, "Let's move." There weren't a lot of people around, but there were definitely people who heard the whole thing. Cruelest thing I've ever done to anyone, and if I could go back and change that one thing, I would.

2) The night before my dad died, I was at my parents' house with the kids, chatting. When it was time to leave, my dad was out on the deck, smoking. I was busy bundling up kids (it was Feb), so instead of going out to tell him goodnight and give him a hug, I yelled, "Bye, Dad!" at the back of his head. If I could only change one thing, I'd change that.

I know just what you mean skimom,I don't think I dwell on these things either,it is just at certain times,the oddest thing can bring you back to something like your classmate in school,or your dad,and you think..I guess it is just human nature,we all wish we had done things differently at times in our lives..but it is good to even have these memories,the people in our lives..

 

[Grandpa]

I regret not having more of a work ethic in school. I could've accomplished a lot more.

I regret some ways that I treated people, including a few in my family. Not overall treatment, but there are individual things I sure could've done better.

There's money choices I've made that I regret.

But like things that happen in your life that aren't optimal, it's important not to dwell on them. One of the philosophies I promote in my office is to find solutions rather than finding blame. Gotta keep moving forward.

 

[blunthead]

...2) The night before my dad died, I was at my parents' house with the kids, chatting. When it was time to leave, my dad was out on the deck, smoking. I was busy bundling up kids (it was Feb), so instead of going out to tell him goodnight and give him a hug, I yelled, "Bye, Dad!" at the back of his head. If I could only change one thing, I'd change that.

When I feel a little braver I'll share something similar to this.

 

[CoriSCapnSkip]

This will sound bad, but lately I've been regretting not being a whole lot more of a bitch mostly in the '70s but to some extent from roughly 1970-2010. I was constantly warned I would get in trouble or people wouldn't like me, so I either didn't let some people who deserved really have it, or not enough, and yet still real bitches were more popular, while I received no credit for my great restraint in not killing these jerks. Every day I ask if I had learned some method of either clobbering them outright, or entrapping them so adults in charge would find out what they were really like (oh, how technology has changed and might have made things different! What if Carrie had worn a wire?), and then done it, would my life now be better, worse, or about the same? I am still not enough of a bitch but I have told a few people I won't believe their manipulative warnings or comply with their BS.

Uh, my other regret is being unable to turn my childhood experiences into bestselling fiction adapted into major movies, so now not only am I not rich and famous but the original experiences are returning to haunt me. This is a continual problem...in fact it's galling me just about daily!

 

[Out of Order]

I regret I had that last beer last night..........

Ooogaaaa.

 

[Sundrop]

I regret I had that last beer last night..........

Ooogaaaa.

It was the last one in the case, wasn't it?

 

[Out of Order]

It was the last one in the case, wasn't it?

In this case, no..........

 

[Sundrop]

In this case, no..........

I shoulda known better......

 

[80sFan]

I regret some things I've said to people when I was younger.
When I was a teenager, I had a boyfriend that was considered "not in my league", to put it mildly. He had a pretty bad stutter and was somewhat cross-eyed and couldn't read very well. He was the nicest, sweetest boy and he would've done anything for me. We dated over a year until "friends" convinced me to break up with him. When I did, I said something derogatory to him about the stuttering.
I also made sure he saw me and my next boyfriend together. I've felt bad about it ever since.
When I joined Facebook I found him again and he was still so sweet and told me he always loved me. So I guess he forgave me, but it still was such a cruel thing to do that I'll always regret it.

I have many other regrets, but some are just too personal to get into here.

 

[KingAHolic]

I wish I had spent more time with my kids.... I would love to have many do-overs with them........
They are grown, very fine young men with good careers but still..........

 

[Pucker]

You know . . . it's a funny thing:

When I was active in pursuit of an alcoholic death, I used to regret a lot of things that I'd done.

Since I got sober, I have only one regret . . . and that is over something I didn't do.

Sometimes I think it's good that God has a sense of humor.

Other times . . . I'm not so sure.