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Wulfman

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What a morning. I will not be doing this game any more with my son's mother. I keep trying to get in touch with him and finally after a month of trying- she emails "he may not remember you." I had to fight my emotions for a couple hours. My mom (in-law) and wife spoke to me. Wife calmed me down and put plans into motion. A friend prayed for me. I took a hard emotional hit. I am staggering back.
I know what she is trying to do and, well I am burning bridges. I will be finding other means of keeping in contact with my son. My life is going good. A lot better than when I was in the small town. I am feeling great. I smile more. Laugh. Laugh too hard I snort. Which cause more laughter. I am thankful my wife and her mom. Times when I need a parent, her mom is there. Other than that b.s. this morning. Yesterday, I recieved a good review. I work hard in the few hours I am there. Wife enjoys it because I come home, take my medicines and then I am snoring the night away. *laughs*
Well, I hope everybody is doing good. Take care.

(((((Anyone))))))
 
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Y'all are just the best. I'd be so lost if I didn't have you.
Out of Order - well, I say there are turtles, but I think that's because Ruby is digging them out of the ground. The huddle against our fence (they know the Ogre is the Turtle Savior) and Ruby has a keen nose for them. Just average size box turtles, probably trying to lay their eggs. But thy're so cute.

ghost19 Thanks for all those words - sadly the Ogre is a Dallas fan, Dallas, Nebraska, Cardinals, Grizzlies.

Much love to you all. Your kind words made my day a little more hopeful. No way through it but through it, right?
 
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Wulfman said:
What a morning. I will not be doing this game any more with my son's mother. I keep trying to get in touch with him and finally after a month of trying- she emails "he may not remember you." I had to fight my emotions for a couple hours. My mom (in-law) and wife spoke to me. Wife calmed me down and put plans into motion. A friend prayed for me. I took a hard emotional hit. I am staggering back.
I know what she is trying to do and, well I am burning bridges. I will be finding other means of keeping in contact with my son. My life is going good. A lot better than when I was in the small town. I am feeling great. I smile more. Laugh. Laugh too hard I snort. Which cause more laughter. I am thankful my wife and her mom. Times when I need a parent, her mom is there. Other than that b.s. this morning. Yesterday, I recieved a good review. I work hard in the few hours I am there. Wife enjoys it because I come home, take my medicines and then I am snoring the night away. *laughs*
Well, I hope everybody is doing good. Take care.

(((((Anyone))))))
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I had troubles with my ex regarding custody and visitation when they were little, too. My children are grown now, with kids of their own, so I can give you this advice:
Keep trying. You may not get to see him much now, but this situation will not last forever. What he will CERTAINLY remember is who behaved how. Who tried to see him and who prevented that. Kids aren't stupid. They figure it out sooner or later. Mine were told (and believed) horrible things about me (mostly by stepmoms), and that ripped my beating heart right out of my chest. But I was given the same advice I'm telling you now. Be patient. Be kind. My kids talk to me daily now. They rarely, if ever, speak to the ex. Like I said. They figure it out.
I know the sooner hurts, but the later WILL make up for it.
Hang in there.
 
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HollyGolightly said:
Good morning Tet-mates. Hope all is well with you. I'm asking you all to keep my Ogre in your thoughts and prayers. As I struggle with my anxiety (or is this depression, who knows?), he is really struggling with what I think is depression. Though, he is all manly-man - wanting to feel his pain and not be medicated. I applaud that in a way. His job is great and they love him there, and he's very busy so that helps. But his office is basically a cave in the basement with very little contact with others, and that doesn't help. He's not really a social butterfly, but he does like someone to eat lunch with and talk baseball/basketball/football with. Anyhow, my heart breaks for him and it distracts me from my sadness (that's got to be a good thing, huh?). But we're still struggling so with the loss of his father. He was such a big part of our lives - truly he was a family man in every since of the word. We talked to him all that time, and celebrating birthdays, holidays, new jobs, new babies, etc just doesn't seem right without him. I worry that the kids will only remember us as a couple of very sad people. Grief is such a long process.

Bless you all in everything you struggle with - it's hard to talk about and I know many of us carry things in our hearts we just can't put out there. I think I'd be even crazier though, if I couldn't put this out there.

It's beautiful and sunny here today. Flowers are blooming all over and suddenly all the trees seem full of leaves when just last week they were still bare. The birds and squirrels are driving Ruby to distraction, but I love seeing them in the year. Turtles even, already. Life goes on and we've got to learn to praise it. Giving in to the gloom is not what my beloved father in law would have wanted us to do.
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Each new day, sweet Holly-Polly... lots of love and hugs to (((you and the Ogre))) both. xox
 
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HollyGolightly said:
Good morning Tet-mates. Hope all is well with you. I'm asking you all to keep my Ogre in your thoughts and prayers. As I struggle with my anxiety (or is this depression, who knows?), he is really struggling with what I think is depression. Though, he is all manly-man - wanting to feel his pain and not be medicated. I applaud that in a way. His job is great and they love him there, and he's very busy so that helps. But his office is basically a cave in the basement with very little contact with others, and that doesn't help. He's not really a social butterfly, but he does like someone to eat lunch with and talk baseball/basketball/football with. Anyhow, my heart breaks for him and it distracts me from my sadness (that's got to be a good thing, huh?). But we're still struggling so with the loss of his father. He was such a big part of our lives - truly he was a family man in every since of the word. We talked to him all that time, and celebrating birthdays, holidays, new jobs, new babies, etc just doesn't seem right without him. I worry that the kids will only remember us as a couple of very sad people. Grief is such a long process.

Bless you all in everything you struggle with - it's hard to talk about and I know many of us carry things in our hearts we just can't put out there. I think I'd be even crazier though, if I couldn't put this out there.

It's beautiful and sunny here today. Flowers are blooming all over and suddenly all the trees seem full of leaves when just last week they were still bare. The birds and squirrels are driving Ruby to distraction, but I love seeing them in the year. Turtles even, already. Life goes on and we've got to learn to praise it. Giving in to the gloom is not what my beloved father in law would have wanted us to do.
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It takes time ((((Holly)))) - give yourself (and the hubby) time to heal. As time goes on it does get better. It took me a few years to grieve for my Mom and then not long after she died, my Dad (he lingered on for a bit with Alzheimer's).
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Roland and Ina - Dad was from Quebec and Mom from Scotland

You are strong :star:and you can get through this! :cheerful:

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Have emptied my moms apartment yesterday. Depressing work. To throw away so much. Knowing you will never see it again... It was difficult and depressing. To see all the things she kept. My teeth from child age and a lock of my hair as a little baby. All the letters i had ever written to her including postcards. Poems and articles i had written.... It is, for some reason, difficult to see proof of all that love. Not that i ever doubted it but still .
Hopefully i can begin to concentrate on other things now, like SKMB, again.
 
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