Trying to quit...again

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TheRedQueen

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So, my husband and I want to quit smoking again. I've tried to quit before, but the only time I was successful was when I was pregnant with my son. I know I shouldn't have picked the habit back up, but I did and now here I am.

My husband can quit without any aid. He gets a bit cranky, but you can barely tell he's going through withdrawal.

I, on the other hand, get so irritable it's scary. I quite literally have to hold onto myself to avoid damaging anything...or anyone. I've made it one whole day before breaking down and starting again, because I simply can't stand myself when I'm as mad as that. There's a little voice in the back of my head, telling me to calm down and get over it, but I have yet to find a way to listen to that voice. When withdrawal hits, it's like I'm someone else. A furious, homicidal someone else. And my husband and son don't deserve that kind of rage directed at them.

So my question is this: has anyone else suffered through this sort of suffocating anger when quitting? If so, how did you overcome it and quit successfully? Any advice would be welcome. I don't want to be chained to this habit anymore.
 
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CrimsonKingAH

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I have quit many times.. never successfully because I always go back to it. I have tried everything.. and I won't say they don't work because of my own failure to have the WILL power. I believe it all boils down to the same thing.. you have to want to quit and have the will power necessary to never go back. As for the side effects : the anger, short temper, craziness ... it happens. Good Luck! I am planning myself to try again to quit. Never give up 'trying' no many how many times you fail. I work at Hospice, and I can tell you that fighting for breath is the WORST way to go... and I don't want to go like that.
 
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Those feelings lessen and get easier to cope with as the days go on. I know they are extremely hard and uncomfortable, but they do go away. I think my determination to stop smoking is what finally did it for me. I got to a point where I really wanted to stop. So, I did. I am still alive and I didn't murder anyone! It was hard at first. It sometimes still is when I have bad days. Part of me liked smoking and now and then I miss it. I quit cold turkey but I know that doesn't work for everyone. My sister stopped smoking just a couple of months after I did and she used Chantix. She was happy with the results as cold turkey wasn't working for her.

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you have to want to quit and have the will power necessary to never go back.
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I wish you tons of luck!!! ((((DarkKrystl))))
 
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I smoked .Everyone did. Started with the light at that time, did not cough too much before daring the inhale Bunch of us used to go in together for a pack. Hide them in the bushes and hoped it did not rain. Or the ole hiding sock trick.

Quit for 10 years. because of an ex. Started again because of this ex. erp.

Good luck. Everything is better. Food. smells.
 
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GNTLGNT

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...I still smoke a few a day, so I will be of no help-though I did get you a shirt.....
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I'm in the same boat. I've tried quitting but the most I've gone without is two days. Hopefully, we can be supportive of each other on our journeys to quit. It's really hard. The cravings are especially tough. That's what gets me each time.
 
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Allen Carr's Easy Way to Stop Smoking.

I read this book and stopped smoking on the day I closed the last page. (Aug 17th 2004, 11:59 pm)

For about 2 weeks I had what I guess are the normal cravings of the nicotine leaving my body, but after that it seemed relatively easy. I have zero cravings now (haven't had any at all for yeeeeeears) and don't ever even think of smoking unless I'm in a discussion like this.

Good luck to you... I really hope you can have the same experience.
 
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DarkKrystl said:
So, my husband and I want to quit smoking again. I've tried to quit before, but the only time I was successful was when I was pregnant with my son. I know I shouldn't have picked the habit back up, but I did and now here I am.

My husband can quit without any aid. He gets a bit cranky, but you can barely tell he's going through withdrawal.

I, on the other hand, get so irritable it's scary. I quite literally have to hold onto myself to avoid damaging anything...or anyone. I've made it one whole day before breaking down and starting again, because I simply can't stand myself when I'm as mad as that. There's a little voice in the back of my head, telling me to calm down and get over it, but I have yet to find a way to listen to that voice. When withdrawal hits, it's like I'm someone else. A furious, homicidal someone else. And my husband and son don't deserve that kind of rage directed at them.

So my question is this: has anyone else suffered through this sort of suffocating anger when quitting? If so, how did you overcome it and quit successfully? Any advice would be welcome. I don't want to be chained to this habit anymore.
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Yes ma'am, I definitely did. I quit eleven years ago when I found out I was going to be a father. For the previous decade before that, I had been a pack and half to two packs a day smoker. My wife quit before we ever decided to try and have a kid, but she was never the dedicated smoker that I was..lol, ok, here's the point to my ramble, eleven years later and I STILL WANT A CIGARETTE EVERY MORNING WHEN I WAKE UP AND ALL THROUGHOUT THE DAY......The one and only reason I don't start back up is because of my son....and the fact my wife would probably shove the pack of smokes up my nose if she found out I started back, but it's an everyday battle for me. It shouldn't be after this long, but it is, I don't understand why. If I see other people smoking, I just take a deep breath and move on, cigarette smoke does not smell bad to me at all, in fact, the smell of a Marlboro smells like fine wine to me. How messed up is that? My wife has no problem at all not smoking, she just walked away, cold turkey. I did also, but I've never been able to kick the habit mentally. I gained quite a bit of weight when I quit that I've never been able to completely lose. So, in closing, I completely understand how hard it is to kick the habit, health risks and second hand smoke aside, I still want one all the time.....
 
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DarkKrystl said:
So, my husband and I want to quit smoking again. I've tried to quit before, but the only time I was successful was when I was pregnant with my son. I know I shouldn't have picked the habit back up, but I did and now here I am.

My husband can quit without any aid. He gets a bit cranky, but you can barely tell he's going through withdrawal.

I, on the other hand, get so irritable it's scary. I quite literally have to hold onto myself to avoid damaging anything...or anyone. I've made it one whole day before breaking down and starting again, because I simply can't stand myself when I'm as mad as that. There's a little voice in the back of my head, telling me to calm down and get over it, but I have yet to find a way to listen to that voice. When withdrawal hits, it's like I'm someone else. A furious, homicidal someone else. And my husband and son don't deserve that kind of rage directed at them.

So my question is this: has anyone else suffered through this sort of suffocating anger when quitting? If so, how did you overcome it and quit successfully? Any advice would be welcome. I don't want to be chained to this habit anymore.
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Do you have doctor?
 
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I bought an e-cigarette two years ago and haven't had a cigarette since. It took me a year to get off the e-cigarette but it is much much easier to wean yourself off that than it is to wean yourself off real cigarettes, and the transition isn't that difficult, provided you avoid doing the things that you associated most with smoking (for me it was going to the pub, beer and cigarettes are indelibly linked in my mind). After a year I threw the ecigarette away and found I didn't miss it. Two years now without a cigarette and I think I've finally beaten it this time (I'd smoked for 17 years and tried to give up countless times). I still miss it with my beer though :D Good luck, it's hard but it's worth it. I feel much healthier.
 
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