The Ka-Tet Cantina 3

  • This message board permanently closed on June 30th, 2020 at 4PM EDT and is no longer accepting new members.

Status
Not open for further replies.

Nomik

Carry on
Jun 19, 2016
3,973
22,555
47
Derry, NH
Okay---here's my personal post for the day. This weekend will be memorable because it marks the first time Kevin (he has a name) and I will meet with our college crew as a couple. We're starting out with just a few people, and the problem is that while they were out being successful, putting their educations to good use, I was basically a junkie. Yes, that's all in the past and I'm proud of who I am now, it makes for an awkward bit of conversation skipping, if you know what I mean. That's that's not stuff that they need to really know about. It's not a secret, they already know, it's just that they don't probably think they can relate to me anymore. Sounds like I'm afraid of being judged! Oh well, bring it on. I'll let you guys know how it goes.
 

DiO'Bolic

Not completely obtuse
Nov 14, 2013
22,864
129,998
Poconos, PA
Okay---here's my personal post for the day. This weekend will be memorable because it marks the first time Kevin (he has a name) and I will meet with our college crew as a couple. We're starting out with just a few people, and the problem is that while they were out being successful, putting their educations to good use, I was basically a junkie. Yes, that's all in the past and I'm proud of who I am now, it makes for an awkward bit of conversation skipping, if you know what I mean. That's that's not stuff that they need to really know about. It's not a secret, they already know, it's just that they don't probably think they can relate to me anymore. Sounds like I'm afraid of being judged! Oh well, bring it on. I'll let you guys know how it goes.
Don't overthink. Don't calculate. Don't hide. Just be yourself as you are today. It's your most powerful weapon.
 

Doc Creed

Well-Known Member
Nov 18, 2015
17,221
82,822
47
United States
Okay---here's my personal post for the day. This weekend will be memorable because it marks the first time Kevin (he has a name) and I will meet with our college crew as a couple. We're starting out with just a few people, and the problem is that while they were out being successful, putting their educations to good use, I was basically a junkie. Yes, that's all in the past and I'm proud of who I am now, it makes for an awkward bit of conversation skipping, if you know what I mean. That's that's not stuff that they need to really know about. It's not a secret, they already know, it's just that they don't probably think they can relate to me anymore. Sounds like I'm afraid of being judged! Oh well, bring it on. I'll let you guys know how it goes.
e70a71c5f2abf27d3fc5422251ce2b9d.jpg
A new day, a blank page, a new beginning. We all make bad choices, you're not the only one. I hope all goes well.
 

Lepplady

Chillin' since 2006
Nov 30, 2006
12,498
65,639
Red Stick
I'm having an amusing conversation with some cousins and siblings. We grew up our whole lives being told that we're Cherokee. As much as 1/4 bood.
But.
Several cousins and one sibling have done those commercial DNA tests and found out that they're all 1% Native American. They're confused as to why the storied history of our lineage doesn’t match up to the DNA tests.

I'm not.

It's pretty obvious to me that one of our fore-mothers bore a child that wasn't her Cherokee husband's. We are the descendant of that pairing.

I'm not rushing to judgement, though. It's very possible that the wayward mating wasn't a voluntary one. It was very common for native women to be raped. And, according to the tests, we're predominantly European, so it was a white guy.

I still claim the Native heritage. Whichever husband it was, he raised the chld/ren as his own and bestowed upon the rest of us a proud and noble culture. I choose to embrace it. Genetics are well and good, but one dedicated swimmer does not a father make. The guy that hung around and did the work, that's a father.

Anyway. Those are my thoughts on the matter. Now I'm going to hang out in the front booth to get some work done. If anybody comes in with cookies or puts on a fresh pot of coffee, interruptions are welcome.
 

Spideyman

Uber Member
Jul 10, 2006
46,336
195,472
79
Just north of Duma Key
coffee_and_cookies.jpg
 

Nomik

Carry on
Jun 19, 2016
3,973
22,555
47
Derry, NH
I'm having an amusing conversation with some cousins and siblings. We grew up our whole lives being told that we're Cherokee. As much as 1/4 bood.
But.
Several cousins and one sibling have done those commercial DNA tests and found out that they're all 1% Native American. They're confused as to why the storied history of our lineage doesn’t match up to the DNA tests.

I'm not.

It's pretty obvious to me that one of our fore-mothers bore a child that wasn't her Cherokee husband's. We are the descendant of that pairing.

I'm not rushing to judgement, though. It's very possible that the wayward mating wasn't a voluntary one. It was very common for native women to be raped. And, according to the tests, we're predominantly European, so it was a white guy.

I still claim the Native heritage. Whichever husband it was, he raised the chld/ren as his own and bestowed upon the rest of us a proud and noble culture. I choose to embrace it. Genetics are well and good, but one dedicated swimmer does not a father make. The guy that hung around and did the work, that's a father.

Anyway. Those are my thoughts on the matter. Now I'm going to hang out in the front booth to get some work done. If anybody comes in with cookies or puts on a fresh pot of coffee, interruptions are welcome.
I have brownies; is that okay? You should claim that heritage, after all, it is how you were raised. Also, you didn't get a DNA test yourself, (not that it really matters, so you don't know for sure that you are not.
As far as the brownies go, you should know that they are deliciously undercooked.
 

Dana Jean

Dirty Pirate Hooker, The Return
Moderator
Apr 11, 2006
53,634
236,697
The High Seas
I'm having an amusing conversation with some cousins and siblings. We grew up our whole lives being told that we're Cherokee. As much as 1/4 bood.
But.
Several cousins and one sibling have done those commercial DNA tests and found out that they're all 1% Native American. They're confused as to why the storied history of our lineage doesn’t match up to the DNA tests.

I'm not.

It's pretty obvious to me that one of our fore-mothers bore a child that wasn't her Cherokee husband's. We are the descendant of that pairing.

I'm not rushing to judgement, though. It's very possible that the wayward mating wasn't a voluntary one. It was very common for native women to be raped. And, according to the tests, we're predominantly European, so it was a white guy.

I still claim the Native heritage. Whichever husband it was, he raised the chld/ren as his own and bestowed upon the rest of us a proud and noble culture. I choose to embrace it. Genetics are well and good, but one dedicated swimmer does not a father make. The guy that hung around and did the work, that's a father.

Anyway. Those are my thoughts on the matter. Now I'm going to hang out in the front booth to get some work done. If anybody comes in with cookies or puts on a fresh pot of coffee, interruptions are welcome.


If a person knows how DNA is passed down, it is not unusual for it to be diluted or just totally disappear in a few generations. It doesn't mean that it wasn't part of your lineage, it just means you didn't get that DNA. But you are still descended from that DNA. That's why they recommend that all siblings be tested, as each sibling will get a different 50% of their parents DNA.

For instance, me, my brother and my sister all did DNA testing. We are all confirmed full siblings. But, my sister and brother got Italian/Greek. I did not. My brother and I got Eastern Jewish. My sister did not. My sister and I got African, my brother did not. It is fascinating how this can be passed down.

Ancestry.com has many good youtubes on this issue. Just because her percentage is small does not mean that there was not full blooded Native Americans in your lineage, the DNA was just diluted down.
 
Last edited:

GNTLGNT

The idiot is IN
Jun 15, 2007
87,651
358,754
62
Cambridge, Ohio
Okay---here's my personal post for the day. This weekend will be memorable because it marks the first time Kevin (he has a name) and I will meet with our college crew as a couple. We're starting out with just a few people, and the problem is that while they were out being successful, putting their educations to good use, I was basically a junkie. Yes, that's all in the past and I'm proud of who I am now, it makes for an awkward bit of conversation skipping, if you know what I mean. That's that's not stuff that they need to really know about. It's not a secret, they already know, it's just that they don't probably think they can relate to me anymore. Sounds like I'm afraid of being judged! Oh well, bring it on. I'll let you guys know how it goes.
...I say to hell with them if they want to judge, if that's the case-then they weren't friends to start with....you are good people.....
 

Dana Jean

Dirty Pirate Hooker, The Return
Moderator
Apr 11, 2006
53,634
236,697
The High Seas
Okay---here's my personal post for the day. This weekend will be memorable because it marks the first time Kevin (he has a name) and I will meet with our college crew as a couple. We're starting out with just a few people, and the problem is that while they were out being successful, putting their educations to good use, I was basically a junkie. Yes, that's all in the past and I'm proud of who I am now, it makes for an awkward bit of conversation skipping, if you know what I mean. That's that's not stuff that they need to really know about. It's not a secret, they already know, it's just that they don't probably think they can relate to me anymore. Sounds like I'm afraid of being judged! Oh well, bring it on. I'll let you guys know how it goes.
Past is past. It's what you do from this day forward. You are a new person every single day the sun rises. You choose who you want to be every single day. Be your best!
 
Mar 12, 2010
6,538
29,004
Texas
Okay---here's my personal post for the day. This weekend will be memorable because it marks the first time Kevin (he has a name) and I will meet with our college crew as a couple. We're starting out with just a few people, and the problem is that while they were out being successful, putting their educations to good use, I was basically a junkie. Yes, that's all in the past and I'm proud of who I am now, it makes for an awkward bit of conversation skipping, if you know what I mean. That's that's not stuff that they need to really know about. It's not a secret, they already know, it's just that they don't probably think they can relate to me anymore. Sounds like I'm afraid of being judged! Oh well, bring it on. I'll let you guys know how it goes.

You've gotten some excellent advice from the nice people on this board :) I was going to tell you to just shrug if anyone gives you grief and flip 'em the bird when they arn't watching :)
 
Status
Not open for further replies.