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[HollyGolightly]

That’s a thought....I haven’t considered this.

She's breaktakingly beautiful! I'm glad you talk and facetime often - that's sweet. I had no idea of your struggles. My heart goes out to you. You've clearly got good self control now - otherwise you'd be all about telling her why you can't stay there. I have a feeling you'll figure out the travel/visit situation, one way or another. Peace to you!

 

[king family fan]

This isn’t exactly a selfie but I want you guys to see someone. Those of you who have followed my ramblings on this board know that I had a drug problem resulting in one child being adopted out, and two being placed in the custody of their (abusive and still using) father. I managed to keep my eldest and my youngest, and I’m very much not using drugs anymore. It’s been about nine years since my daughter and son, Timothy and Emma, were taken from me. My daughter is at the preteen age now, and there are a lot of FaceTime calls with typical preteen drama, but most of all she wants me to visit her and her brother. Her father will allow it and even offers to pay part of my way. Here’s the problem: they live at the opposite end of the country in a little town with no hotels within an hour and a half. I’m expected to stay with under a roof with a man who abused me physically and emotionally for years, and has threatened to kill me on many occasions. I can’t do that, especially since I’d have to bring my three year old, Alex. I’ve tried explaining to Emma that I just don’t have the money for a plane ticket for Alex and I, a rental car, and a hotel, but she says “dad says it’s fine for you to stay here”
He won’t let her or my son Tim come here for a visit though.
I don’t want to have to explain to Emma why I don’t feel comfortable staying at her house.
Anyway, this is a daily struggle for me and a MAJOR source of guilt. I needed to vent about it with people I trust. She and I did FaceTime tonight and she sent me this selfie. Isn’t she gorgeous?
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She is very pretty. I hope this all works out and you can see her.

 

[Wayoftheredpanda]

 

[Klerekast]

Nomik You have a very beautiful daughter, I really hope you will see her soon. Sending rays of light your way!

 

[Moderator]

This isn’t exactly a selfie but I want you guys to see someone. Those of you who have followed my ramblings on this board know that I had a drug problem resulting in one child being adopted out, and two being placed in the custody of their (abusive and still using) father. I managed to keep my eldest and my youngest, and I’m very much not using drugs anymore. It’s been about nine years since my daughter and son, Timothy and Emma, were taken from me. My daughter is at the preteen age now, and there are a lot of FaceTime calls with typical preteen drama, but most of all she wants me to visit her and her brother. Her father will allow it and even offers to pay part of my way. Here’s the problem: they live at the opposite end of the country in a little town with no hotels within an hour and a half. I’m expected to stay with under a roof with a man who abused me physically and emotionally for years, and has threatened to kill me on many occasions. I can’t do that, especially since I’d have to bring my three year old, Alex. I’ve tried explaining to Emma that I just don’t have the money for a plane ticket for Alex and I, a rental car, and a hotel, but she says “dad says it’s fine for you to stay here”
He won’t let her or my son Tim come here for a visit though.
I don’t want to have to explain to Emma why I don’t feel comfortable staying at her house.
Anyway, this is a daily struggle for me and a MAJOR source of guilt. I needed to vent about it with people I trust. She and I did FaceTime tonight and she sent me this selfie. Isn’t she gorgeous?
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She is gorgeous! Tery has a great idea with the RV rental but if that won't work, hope you are able to figure out a solution that will so you can visit.

 

[GNTLGNT]

....she is very pretty Nomi, I understand your quandary-yet I feel she is old enough to understand if you lay it out for her......no sugarcoating, and admit the sins from ALL parties.....

 

[Dana Jean]

This isn’t exactly a selfie but I want you guys to see someone. Those of you who have followed my ramblings on this board know that I had a drug problem resulting in one child being adopted out, and two being placed in the custody of their (abusive and still using) father. I managed to keep my eldest and my youngest, and I’m very much not using drugs anymore. It’s been about nine years since my daughter and son, Timothy and Emma, were taken from me. My daughter is at the preteen age now, and there are a lot of FaceTime calls with typical preteen drama, but most of all she wants me to visit her and her brother. Her father will allow it and even offers to pay part of my way. Here’s the problem: they live at the opposite end of the country in a little town with no hotels within an hour and a half. I’m expected to stay with under a roof with a man who abused me physically and emotionally for years, and has threatened to kill me on many occasions. I can’t do that, especially since I’d have to bring my three year old, Alex. I’ve tried explaining to Emma that I just don’t have the money for a plane ticket for Alex and I, a rental car, and a hotel, but she says “dad says it’s fine for you to stay here”
He won’t let her or my son Tim come here for a visit though.
I don’t want to have to explain to Emma why I don’t feel comfortable staying at her house.
Anyway, this is a daily struggle for me and a MAJOR source of guilt. I needed to vent about it with people I trust. She and I did FaceTime tonight and she sent me this selfie. Isn’t she gorgeous?
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Beautiful girl, how old did you say she was, or did you? ohh, I see preteen. Does she drive? Maybe you could stay in a place an hour and a half away and meet halfway driving to each other? Or can she drive the hour and half to see you in the closest town? Teens love to drive, that would be no big deal for a young driver.

 

[DiO'Bolic]

A Sunflower Farm Invited Tourists. It Ended Up Like a ‘Zombie Apocalypse.’

 

[Nomik]

....she is very pretty Nomi, I understand your quandary-yet I feel she is old enough to understand if you lay it out for her......no sugarcoating, and admit the sins from ALL parties.....

I know....and I’ve told her some of it.....not the abuse though. I think she knows how he is with women because he’s had girlfriends live with them.

 

[Nomik]

Beautiful girl, how old did you say she was, or did you? ohh, I see preteen. Does she drive? Maybe you could stay in a place an hour and a half away and meet halfway driving to each other? Or can she drive the hour and half to see you in the closest town? Teens love to drive, that would be no big deal for a young driver.

She’s only thirteen....a few years yet.

 

[doowopgirl]

Kids are way better at understanding things that we sometimes give them credit for. I hope you figure out your dilemma. Being straight is alwyas the best option.

 

[GNTLGNT]

I know....and I’ve told her some of it.....not the abuse though. I think she knows how he is with women because he’s had girlfriends live with them.

....I'm not in any way trying to run your life, just think in a situation like this-total disclosure is called for.....and the RV rental is a great thought.....

 

[GNTLGNT]

A Sunflower Farm Invited Tourists. It Ended Up Like a ‘Zombie Apocalypse.’

...people suck.....not ALL people, but these are the same kind of trolls that could f*ck up an anvil......

 

[Nomik]

....I'm not in any way trying to run your life, just think in a situation like this-total disclosure is called for.....and the RV rental is a great thought.....

I agree. It’s a matter of approach and timing. By the way, if I were taking applications for people to run my life, you would be on my short list of qualified candidates!

 

[GNTLGNT]

I agree. It’s a matter of approach and timing. By the way, if I were taking applications for people to run my life, you would be on my short list of qualified candidates!

....I appreciate that very much, but I've certainly screwed the pooch on multiple decision making fronts....

 

[Alexandra M]

She is very pretty. I hope this all works out and you can see her.

Sh is a beautiful young lady. Prayers for you Nomik

 

[Alexandra M]

....I'm not in any way trying to run your life, just think in a situation like this-total disclosure is called for.....and the RV rental is a great thought.....

Nomik What GNTLGNT said, I agree totally.
I made the mistake of telling my girls nothing. I felt that it was between me and him and didn't want it to taint their feelings for their father. They found out from someone else. That was wrong, I should have been the one to tell them what they needed to know. I felt then and still do, feel like the world's worst mother for my poor decision making.
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....I'm not in any way trying to run your life, just think in a situation like this-total disclosure is called for.....and the RV rental is a great thought.....

Nomik What GNTLGNT said, I agree totally.
I made the mistake of telling my girls nothing. I felt that it was between me and him and didn't want it to taint their feelings for their father. They found out from someone else. That was wrong, I should have been the one to tell them what they needed to know. I felt then and still do, feel like the world's worst mother for my poor decision making.

 

[GNTLGNT]

...old fat GNT trying to put a positive face on leaving Maine.....

 

[Baby Blue]

This isn’t exactly a selfie but I want you guys to see someone. Those of you who have followed my ramblings on this board know that I had a drug problem resulting in one child being adopted out, and two being placed in the custody of their (abusive and still using) father. I managed to keep my eldest and my youngest, and I’m very much not using drugs anymore. It’s been about nine years since my daughter and son, Timothy and Emma, were taken from me. My daughter is at the preteen age now, and there are a lot of FaceTime calls with typical preteen drama, but most of all she wants me to visit her and her brother. Her father will allow it and even offers to pay part of my way. Here’s the problem: they live at the opposite end of the country in a little town with no hotels within an hour and a half. I’m expected to stay with under a roof with a man who abused me physically and emotionally for years, and has threatened to kill me on many occasions. I can’t do that, especially since I’d have to bring my three year old, Alex. I’ve tried explaining to Emma that I just don’t have the money for a plane ticket for Alex and I, a rental car, and a hotel, but she says “dad says it’s fine for you to stay here”
He won’t let her or my son Tim come here for a visit though.
I don’t want to have to explain to Emma why I don’t feel comfortable staying at her house.
Anyway, this is a daily struggle for me and a MAJOR source of guilt. I needed to vent about it with people I trust. She and I did FaceTime tonight and she sent me this selfie. Isn’t she gorgeous?
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That is a heartbreakingly difficult situation for sure. I know I couldn't stay under the same roof with my abusive ex. Where abouts on the other side of the country are they? Not in Washington by any chance, are they?

 

[pegasus216]

I don't know if this will show up, I'm not good with putting pictures up here.
This is Kaen, and I this morning.