What Did You Do Today? What are you doing today?

[Grandpa]

I had a horrible time sleeping last night.

I worked a full day at my full time job and then worked my part-time job. Got home at 10:30pm. The wife sits me down and asked me how much I know of our daughter’s best friend’s situation. I said I knew nothing. She said our daughter (a junior in high school) told her that the girl’s mother has terminal cancer. The mother sat the daughter down recently and said the doctors have informed her the end will come sooner rather than later. She is on disability right now, but it doesn’t pay the bills and they are now going through the process losing their house. She told her daughter she will be put into foster care very shortly. My daughter approached her mom yesterday and asked if her friend could come live with us rather than go into foster care.

I don’t know a whole lot about the girl, but she seems extremely nice, is an excellent advanced student with a promising future if secondary schooling would be available to her, belongs to academic school clubs, is driven, doesn’t get into trouble, and works a part-time time job for spending money.

My wife asked me what I thought about taking the girl in. I was in shock, but didn’t say no. I said if we do consider it there are a lot of questions that must be answered, first. We need to hear the complete story for ourselves from the girl. We would need to speak to the mother. Is there a father involved? She has a grandmother that apparently cannot take her in long term... so what is that situation. What about health care insurance? What are our liabilities? What issues would there be with the high school? Do we need to become foster parents, legal guardians, or just take her in temporarily? And much, much more.

My head says we can’t afford essentially another teenage daughter, but my heart says we can’t let her go through this alone, and how can we not?

I try to go sleep. I wake up and go to the computer searching 'becoming foster parents.' It takes at minimum of six months, with an average time closer to 12 months, for someone to be approved for foster care. But by that time she will have aged-out of foster care because she will have turned 18 years old. In our state she could petition to re-enter foster care which would give her place to live, health insurance and other services until she turns 21 years old, but there are numbers of criteria that must be met.

I go back to sleep and wake up again... We would have to make some changes to the house. I walk downstairs to the finished part of the basement and survey the situation... Well, I can build a small wall off the stairs and install a door in order to convert it into a bedroom. There's already a hookup for cable. It's heated. No A/C but it always stays cool in the summer time. I would need to get some electrical work done for the lighting. Etc...

I wake up two more times during the night with my head spinning... Where does, and will this go?

I get it. After an adult life of helping people young enough to not be able to make great decisions and old enough to have known better, I finally said to Grandma, "No more strays," which was unkind and not even necessarily accurate, but sometimes it was. Still it happened occasionally, sometimes good, sometimes bad.

Yeah, it's a big change, a big adjustment, and no guarantees that it will work out or not even be disastrous. Whole new family dynamic. Whole new set of whys and wherefores. There would be times of, "maybe we shouldn't have done this," count on it, but there just may be a life to help salvage, and if that happened, the value would be beyond measure.

I'd be sitting down with my family and talking pros/cons. And based on my past experience (wait - all experience is past), I'd insist that a Plan B of breakaway be developed before Plan A would be approved. Because you never know.

Good luck with it. You're a good family to even consider it.

I’m too old for all this... How do I still have a full head of hair?

Genetics. You rat.

 

[DiO'Bolic]

I get it. After an adult life of helping people young enough to not be able to make great decisions and old enough to have known better, I finally said to Grandma, "No more strays," which was unkind and not even necessarily accurate, but sometimes it was. Still it happened occasionally, sometimes good, sometimes bad.

Yeah, it's a big change, a big adjustment, and no guarantees that it will work out or not even be disastrous. Whole new family dynamic. Whole new set of whys and wherefores. There would be times of, "maybe we shouldn't have done this," count on it, but there just may be a life to help salvage, and if that happened, the value would be beyond measure.

I'd be sitting down with my family and talking pros/cons. And based on my past experience (wait - all experience is past), I'd insist that a Plan B of breakaway be developed before Plan A would be approved. Because you never know.

Good luck with it. You're a good family to even consider it.



Genetics. You rat.

Definite words of wisdom there.

 

[Out of Order]

Wait until she moves in..........no sleep for you!

 

[GNTLGNT]

I had a horrible time sleeping last night.

I worked a full day at my full time job and then worked my part-time job. Got home at 10:30pm. The wife sits me down and asked me how much I know of our daughter’s best friend’s situation. I said I knew nothing. She said our daughter (a junior in high school) told her that the girl’s mother has terminal cancer. The mother sat the daughter down recently and said the doctors have informed her the end will come sooner rather than later. She is on disability right now, but it doesn’t pay the bills and they are now going through the process losing their house. She told her daughter she will be put into foster care very shortly. My daughter approached her mom yesterday and asked if her friend could come live with us rather than go into foster care.

I don’t know a whole lot about the girl, but she seems extremely nice, is an excellent advanced student with a promising future if secondary schooling would be available to her, belongs to academic school clubs, is driven, doesn’t get into trouble, and works a part-time time job for spending money.

My wife asked me what I thought about taking the girl in. I was in shock, but didn’t say no. I said if we do consider it there are a lot of questions that must be answered, first. We need to hear the complete story for ourselves from the girl. We would need to speak to the mother. Is there a father involved? She has a grandmother that apparently cannot take her in long term... so what is that situation. What about health care insurance? What are our liabilities? What issues would there be with the high school? Do we need to become foster parents, legal guardians, or just take her in temporarily? And much, much more.

My head says we can’t afford essentially another teenage daughter, but my heart says we can’t let her go through this alone, and how can we not?

I try to go sleep. I wake up and go to the computer searching 'becoming foster parents.' It takes at minimum of six months, with an average time closer to 12 months, for someone to be approved for foster care. But by that time she will have aged-out of foster care because she will have turned 18 years old. In our state she could petition to re-enter foster care which would give her place to live, health insurance and other services until she turns 21 years old, but there are numbers of criteria that must be met.

I go back to sleep and wake up again... We would have to make some changes to the house. I walk downstairs to the finished part of the basement and survey the situation... Well, I can build a small wall off the stairs and install a door in order to convert it into a bedroom. There's already a hookup for cable. It's heated. No A/C but it always stays cool in the summer time. I would need to get some electrical work done for the lighting. Etc...

I wake up two more times during the night with my head spinning... Where does, and will this go?

I’m too old for all this... How do I still have a full head of hair?

I already have an extremely busy weekend planned... Sure looks to become even busier.

....I say do it my friend....and this from a guy who took on six extras in his house, and now a grandbaby......your heart will thank you.....

 

[DiO'Bolic]

....I say do it my friend....and this from a guy who took on six extras in his house, and now a grandbaby......your heart will thank you.....

We had her stay over last night so we could get the story straight from her. Her biggest concern regarding her situation is to stay in the school district until she graduates from high school. Her school and friends has been the only solid, stable, and positive thing in her life. Not knowing if we would take her in she said her mother was going to contact us to plead for our help, and at a minimum to allow her to use our mailing address so she could stay in her school if the only other options were for her to move into the homeless women’s shelter about 30 miles away with her mother, or going into foster care. We will be speaking to the mother over the weekend.

She bought a car yesterday with the help of her grandmother co-signing, so regardless where she ends up she’ll be able to get to school and her job. The mother is being evicted and will be going into a homeless shelter to overcome drug addiction so she can begin treatment to slow down the onslaught of a terminal brain tumor. If she doesn’t overcome her demons her remaining time here will be very short. Getting off methadone and onto medicine for the brain tumor is her only hope of extending her life. According to the girl the father wants nothing to do with her, currently.

We said a homeless shelter or foster care is something we would never wish on her and will be willing to help to keep it from happening.

The girl never gets into trouble, has a 4.0 GPA, is on the school tennis team, is in debate club and participates in mock trial. She works almost full time and earns about $300 a week to pay for her basic needs. After hearing her life story… how this girl remains so positive, avoided going down the path of her family, and is such a good student, defies logic. She is driven, committed and says she will attend college, no matter what it takes or the sacrifices she needs to make. She wants to become an attorney and judge.

The most she hopes for from us is room and board and a stable life. I asked her how long she thinks she’d be staying. She said the minimum would be 3 months, but it could be 6 months, or a year or two depending on what occurs. She said she receives food stamps so can help to buy food. I said to use the food stamps on herself, for the extras she wants.

I told her if there comes a point where either her father or grandmother petitions to gain custody there was nothing we could do. And if it didn’t work out with us, she and her mother would need to find an alternative... we were up front with this. We won't be going down the path of foster care provider at the moment.

We decided, pending the discussion with her mother, that we are willing to give it a try. But we were up front that it's on a trial basis, and long term depends on if we both can make it work. We said we understand adjustments, not always pleasant, and changes will need to take place form both her and us. That there will be times when we both will think why did we do this, but it is nothing we can’t overcome if we all remain committed to making things work. We won’t expect any compensation for her staying with us but she would need to pitch in for the extras she would want. She needs to keep up the loan on her car, pay for her car insurance, gas, and start saving for college. Her uncle has her on his health insurance plan. Most other expenses we will provide, and we don’t want money from her. Her money is to be spent by herself, on herself.

But there remains one open item... we're bringing our other daughter home from college this weekend to get her approval, also. We hope the girl can stay in the older daughter's bedroom while she's at college and stay with our other daughter in her bedroom when she's home. If her stay goes beyond the school term we will probably do some work on the downstairs room in order to convert it into a bedroom.

She was all smiles. She thanked us profusely and said she can’t remember ever being so happy... To have the chance of a somewhat normal life she has only ever read about, seen in the movies, or dreamed of.

As of right now we’re looking at about a month when she moves in depending on how long they will be able to remain in their rented house before being evicted, but it could be sooner.

So... We shall see.

 

[GNTLGNT]

Just spoke to the wife. She gave no indication

We had her stay over last night so we could get the story straight from her. Her biggest concern regarding her situation is to stay in the school district until she graduates from high school. Her school and friends has been the only solid, stable, and positive thing in her life. Not knowing if we would take her in she said her mother was going to contact us to plead for our help, and at a minimum to allow her to use our mailing address so she could stay in her school if the only other options were for her to move into the homeless women’s shelter about 30 miles away with her mother, or going into foster care. We will be speaking to the mother over the weekend.

The bought a car yesterday with the help of her grandmother co-signing, so regardless where she ends up she’ll be able to get to school and her job. The mother is being evicted and will be going into a homeless shelter to overcome drug addiction so she can begin treatment to slow down the onslaught of a terminal brain tumor. If she doesn’t overcome her demons her remaining time here will be very short. Getting off methadone and onto medicine for the brain tumor is her only hope of extending her life. According to the girl the father wants nothing to do with her, currently.

We said a homeless shelter or foster care is something we would never wish on her and will be willing to help to keep it from happening.

The girl never gets into trouble, has a 4.0 GPA, is on the school tennis team, is in debate club and participates in mock trial. She works almost full time and earns about $300 a week to pay for her basic needs. After hearing her life story… how this girl remains so positive, avoided going down the path of her family, and is such a good student, defies logic. She is driven, committed and says she will attend college, no matter what it takes or the sacrifices she needs to make. She wants to become an attorney and judge.

The most she hopes for from us is room and board and a stable life. I asked her how long she thinks she’d be staying. She said the minimum would be 3 months, but it could be 6 months, or a year or two depending on what occurs. She said she receives food stamps so can help to buy food. I said to use the food stamps on herself, for the extras she wants.

I told her if there comes a point where either her father or grandmother petitions to gain custody there was nothing we could do. And if it didn’t work out with us, she and her mother would need to find an alternative... we were up front with this. We won't be going down the path of foster care provider at the moment.

We decided, pending the discussion with her mother, that we are willing to give it a try. But we were up front that it's on a trial basis, and long term depends on if we both can make it work. We said we understand adjustments, not always pleasant, and changes will need to take place form both her and us. That there will be times when we both will think why did we do this, but it is nothing we can’t overcome if we all remain committed to making things work. We won’t expect any compensation for her staying with us but she would need to pitch in for the extras she would want. She needs to keep up the loan on her car, pay for her car insurance, gas, and start saving for college. Her uncle has her on his health insurance plan. Most other expenses we will provide, and we don’t want money from her. Her money is to be spent by herself, on herself.

But there remains one open item... we're bringing our other daughter home from college this weekend to get her approval, also. We hope the girl can stay in the older daughter's bedroom while she's at college and stay with our other daughter in her bedroom when she's home. If her stay goes beyond the school term we will probably do some work on the downstairs room in order to convert it into a bedroom.

She was all smiles. She thanked us profusely and said she can’t remember ever being so happy... To have the chance of a somewhat normal life she has only ever read about, seen in the movies, or dreamed of.

As of right now we’re looking at about a month when she moves in depending on how long they will be able to remain in their rented house before being evicted, but it could be sooner.

So... We shall see.

...you have thought this well through, and you and your family Joe are the angels she needs.....

 

[Doc Creed]

The girl never gets into trouble, has a 4.0 GPA, is on the school tennis team, is in debate club and participates in mock trial. She works almost full time and earns about $300 a week to pay for her basic needs. After hearing her life story… how this girl remains so positive, avoided going down the path of her family, and is such a good student, defies logic. She is driven, committed and says she will attend college, no matter what it takes or the sacrifices she needs to make. She wants to become an attorney and judge.

God bless her. It's good to know people like you and your wife still exist in the world. May her fire never burn out.

 

[Baby Blue]

Just spoke to the wife. She gave no indication

We had her stay over last night so we could get the story straight from her. Her biggest concern regarding her situation is to stay in the school district until she graduates from high school. Her school and friends has been the only solid, stable, and positive thing in her life. Not knowing if we would take her in she said her mother was going to contact us to plead for our help, and at a minimum to allow her to use our mailing address so she could stay in her school if the only other options were for her to move into the homeless women’s shelter about 30 miles away with her mother, or going into foster care. We will be speaking to the mother over the weekend.

The bought a car yesterday with the help of her grandmother co-signing, so regardless where she ends up she’ll be able to get to school and her job. The mother is being evicted and will be going into a homeless shelter to overcome drug addiction so she can begin treatment to slow down the onslaught of a terminal brain tumor. If she doesn’t overcome her demons her remaining time here will be very short. Getting off methadone and onto medicine for the brain tumor is her only hope of extending her life. According to the girl the father wants nothing to do with her, currently.

We said a homeless shelter or foster care is something we would never wish on her and will be willing to help to keep it from happening.

The girl never gets into trouble, has a 4.0 GPA, is on the school tennis team, is in debate club and participates in mock trial. She works almost full time and earns about $300 a week to pay for her basic needs. After hearing her life story… how this girl remains so positive, avoided going down the path of her family, and is such a good student, defies logic. She is driven, committed and says she will attend college, no matter what it takes or the sacrifices she needs to make. She wants to become an attorney and judge.

The most she hopes for from us is room and board and a stable life. I asked her how long she thinks she’d be staying. She said the minimum would be 3 months, but it could be 6 months, or a year or two depending on what occurs. She said she receives food stamps so can help to buy food. I said to use the food stamps on herself, for the extras she wants.

I told her if there comes a point where either her father or grandmother petitions to gain custody there was nothing we could do. And if it didn’t work out with us, she and her mother would need to find an alternative... we were up front with this. We won't be going down the path of foster care provider at the moment.

We decided, pending the discussion with her mother, that we are willing to give it a try. But we were up front that it's on a trial basis, and long term depends on if we both can make it work. We said we understand adjustments, not always pleasant, and changes will need to take place form both her and us. That there will be times when we both will think why did we do this, but it is nothing we can’t overcome if we all remain committed to making things work. We won’t expect any compensation for her staying with us but she would need to pitch in for the extras she would want. She needs to keep up the loan on her car, pay for her car insurance, gas, and start saving for college. Her uncle has her on his health insurance plan. Most other expenses we will provide, and we don’t want money from her. Her money is to be spent by herself, on herself.

But there remains one open item... we're bringing our other daughter home from college this weekend to get her approval, also. We hope the girl can stay in the older daughter's bedroom while she's at college and stay with our other daughter in her bedroom when she's home. If her stay goes beyond the school term we will probably do some work on the downstairs room in order to convert it into a bedroom.

She was all smiles. She thanked us profusely and said she can’t remember ever being so happy... To have the chance of a somewhat normal life she has only ever read about, seen in the movies, or dreamed of.

As of right now we’re looking at about a month when she moves in depending on how long they will be able to remain in their rented house before being evicted, but it could be sooner.

So... We shall see.

Thank you so much for being there for her! It sounds like she has really earned this gift. <3

 

[Grandpa]

Just spoke to the wife. She gave no indication

We had her stay over last night so we could get the story straight from her. Her biggest concern regarding her situation is to stay in the school district until she graduates from high school. Her school and friends has been the only solid, stable, and positive thing in her life. Not knowing if we would take her in she said her mother was going to contact us to plead for our help, and at a minimum to allow her to use our mailing address so she could stay in her school if the only other options were for her to move into the homeless women’s shelter about 30 miles away with her mother, or going into foster care. We will be speaking to the mother over the weekend.

The bought a car yesterday with the help of her grandmother co-signing, so regardless where she ends up she’ll be able to get to school and her job. The mother is being evicted and will be going into a homeless shelter to overcome drug addiction so she can begin treatment to slow down the onslaught of a terminal brain tumor. If she doesn’t overcome her demons her remaining time here will be very short. Getting off methadone and onto medicine for the brain tumor is her only hope of extending her life. According to the girl the father wants nothing to do with her, currently.

We said a homeless shelter or foster care is something we would never wish on her and will be willing to help to keep it from happening.

The girl never gets into trouble, has a 4.0 GPA, is on the school tennis team, is in debate club and participates in mock trial. She works almost full time and earns about $300 a week to pay for her basic needs. After hearing her life story… how this girl remains so positive, avoided going down the path of her family, and is such a good student, defies logic. She is driven, committed and says she will attend college, no matter what it takes or the sacrifices she needs to make. She wants to become an attorney and judge.

The most she hopes for from us is room and board and a stable life. I asked her how long she thinks she’d be staying. She said the minimum would be 3 months, but it could be 6 months, or a year or two depending on what occurs. She said she receives food stamps so can help to buy food. I said to use the food stamps on herself, for the extras she wants.

I told her if there comes a point where either her father or grandmother petitions to gain custody there was nothing we could do. And if it didn’t work out with us, she and her mother would need to find an alternative... we were up front with this. We won't be going down the path of foster care provider at the moment.

We decided, pending the discussion with her mother, that we are willing to give it a try. But we were up front that it's on a trial basis, and long term depends on if we both can make it work. We said we understand adjustments, not always pleasant, and changes will need to take place form both her and us. That there will be times when we both will think why did we do this, but it is nothing we can’t overcome if we all remain committed to making things work. We won’t expect any compensation for her staying with us but she would need to pitch in for the extras she would want. She needs to keep up the loan on her car, pay for her car insurance, gas, and start saving for college. Her uncle has her on his health insurance plan. Most other expenses we will provide, and we don’t want money from her. Her money is to be spent by herself, on herself.

But there remains one open item... we're bringing our other daughter home from college this weekend to get her approval, also. We hope the girl can stay in the older daughter's bedroom while she's at college and stay with our other daughter in her bedroom when she's home. If her stay goes beyond the school term we will probably do some work on the downstairs room in order to convert it into a bedroom.

She was all smiles. She thanked us profusely and said she can’t remember ever being so happy... To have the chance of a somewhat normal life she has only ever read about, seen in the movies, or dreamed of.

As of right now we’re looking at about a month when she moves in depending on how long they will be able to remain in their rented house before being evicted, but it could be sooner.

So... We shall see.

Good for you guys. Seriously.

The one part that gave me twitches was the mom saying she could just use your mailing address. That's an invitation for a charge of fraud if something went south. I'd call that one either/or - either you're with us or you're not.

I sincerely, devoutly, hope that all goes well and that the young lady goes on to have a rich, full life with the undeserved hardships left behind and a new happy family environment to propel her to accomplish her lofty and impressive goals.

 

[Baby Blue]

We're on the road to Suncadia! (Mr. Blue is driving.)

Cle Elum Lodging | Washington Resort | Suncadia Resort &amp; Spa

 

[GNTLGNT]

We're on the road to Suncadia! (Mr. Blue is driving.)

Cle Elum Lodging | Washington Resort | Suncadia Resort &amp; Spa

...whoo-hoo!....enjoy.....

 

[Spideyman]

We had her stay over last night so we could get the story straight from her. Her biggest concern regarding her situation is to stay in the school district until she graduates from high school. Her school and friends has been the only solid, stable, and positive thing in her life. Not knowing if we would take her in she said her mother was going to contact us to plead for our help, and at a minimum to allow her to use our mailing address so she could stay in her school if the only other options were for her to move into the homeless women’s shelter about 30 miles away with her mother, or going into foster care. We will be speaking to the mother over the weekend.

She bought a car yesterday with the help of her grandmother co-signing, so regardless where she ends up she’ll be able to get to school and her job. The mother is being evicted and will be going into a homeless shelter to overcome drug addiction so she can begin treatment to slow down the onslaught of a terminal brain tumor. If she doesn’t overcome her demons her remaining time here will be very short. Getting off methadone and onto medicine for the brain tumor is her only hope of extending her life. According to the girl the father wants nothing to do with her, currently.

We said a homeless shelter or foster care is something we would never wish on her and will be willing to help to keep it from happening.

The girl never gets into trouble, has a 4.0 GPA, is on the school tennis team, is in debate club and participates in mock trial. She works almost full time and earns about $300 a week to pay for her basic needs. After hearing her life story… how this girl remains so positive, avoided going down the path of her family, and is such a good student, defies logic. She is driven, committed and says she will attend college, no matter what it takes or the sacrifices she needs to make. She wants to become an attorney and judge.

The most she hopes for from us is room and board and a stable life. I asked her how long she thinks she’d be staying. She said the minimum would be 3 months, but it could be 6 months, or a year or two depending on what occurs. She said she receives food stamps so can help to buy food. I said to use the food stamps on herself, for the extras she wants.

I told her if there comes a point where either her father or grandmother petitions to gain custody there was nothing we could do. And if it didn’t work out with us, she and her mother would need to find an alternative... we were up front with this. We won't be going down the path of foster care provider at the moment.

We decided, pending the discussion with her mother, that we are willing to give it a try. But we were up front that it's on a trial basis, and long term depends on if we both can make it work. We said we understand adjustments, not always pleasant, and changes will need to take place form both her and us. That there will be times when we both will think why did we do this, but it is nothing we can’t overcome if we all remain committed to making things work. We won’t expect any compensation for her staying with us but she would need to pitch in for the extras she would want. She needs to keep up the loan on her car, pay for her car insurance, gas, and start saving for college. Her uncle has her on his health insurance plan. Most other expenses we will provide, and we don’t want money from her. Her money is to be spent by herself, on herself.

But there remains one open item... we're bringing our other daughter home from college this weekend to get her approval, also. We hope the girl can stay in the older daughter's bedroom while she's at college and stay with our other daughter in her bedroom when she's home. If her stay goes beyond the school term we will probably do some work on the downstairs room in order to convert it into a bedroom.

She was all smiles. She thanked us profusely and said she can’t remember ever being so happy... To have the chance of a somewhat normal life she has only ever read about, seen in the movies, or dreamed of.

As of right now we’re looking at about a month when she moves in depending on how long they will be able to remain in their rented house before being evicted, but it could be sooner.

So... We shall see.

Makes one appreciate what one has in life. Will continue guidance vibes for you and your family, plus the girl. Only positives for all. Your heart is a good one.

 

[DiO'Bolic]

Good for you guys. Seriously.

The one part that gave me twitches was the mom saying she could just use your mailing address. That's an invitation for a charge of fraud if something went south. I'd call that one either/or - either you're with us or you're not.

I sincerely, devoutly, hope that all goes well and that the young lady goes on to have a rich, full life with the undeserved hardships left behind and a new happy family environment to propel her to accomplish her lofty and impressive goals.

Good point. I said we would only put our address down for the girl with only the high school (so she can remain a student there), and only if she would be living with us.

And thank you. This morning I heard Green Day's Good Riddance (Time Of Your Life) play on the radio. I wondered if it was some kind of an omen for the girl

Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road
Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go
So make the best of this test, and don't ask why
It's not a question, but a lesson learned in time

It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right
I hope you had the time of your life

So take the photographs, and still frames in your mind
Hang it on a shelf in good health and good time
Tattoos of memories and dead skin on trial
For what it's worth it was worth all the while

It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right
I hope you had the time of your life

It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right
I hope you had the time of your life
It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right
I hope you had the time of your life​

 

[DiO'Bolic]

Thanks everyone, but as of now it's just good intentions. The real test will be when, and if, it happens.

 

[swiftdog2.0]

Good point. I said we would only put our address down for the girl with only the high school (so she can remain a student there), and only if she would be living with us.

And thank you. This morning I heard Green Day's Good Riddance (Time Of Your Life) play on the radio. I wondered if it was some kind of an omen for the girl

Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road
Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go
So make the best of this test, and don't ask why
It's not a question, but a lesson learned in time

It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right
I hope you had the time of your life

So take the photographs, and still frames in your mind
Hang it on a shelf in good health and good time
Tattoos of memories and dead skin on trial
For what it's worth it was worth all the while

It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right
I hope you had the time of your life

It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right
I hope you had the time of your life
It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right
I hope you had the time of your life​

Sounds like you have a plan that will work. Best of luck. I hope everything works out for all involved.

 

[AnnaMarie]

DiO'Bolic Good luck with making such an important decision.

 

[GNTLGNT]

Thanks everyone, but as of now it's just good intentions. The real test will be when, and if, it happens.

...indeed....but I respect the hell out of you and your family for considering such a change in everyone's lives.....no matter what, you're good people my friend.....

 

[AnnaMarie]

DiO'Bolic I just had the chance to read your post about sitting down with the young woman. I caught myself tearing up a few times.

I took a teen girl in once. It did not go well....but I knew it wouldn’t. It was a complete difference situation, including that she had zero interest in school and considered Welfare her life’s dream “job”.

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What I did today.....bought make-up.

What I am doing today.....patch tests with the make-up.

About 30ish years ago I stopped wearing make-up. It started causing me skin problems. Blotchy and what I eventually realized was hives. When my eyes completely swelled shut I researched and discovered perfumes have oil, including peanut oil or sesame seed oil. Almost all make-up had perfume. So, I was putting my allergens not only on my face but also on my eyes. And yes, on my lips. Which explains why I would suddenly develop a cough or a hoarse voice. So...I quit make-up.

But in about 6 weeks my son graduates, then in another 6 weeks he graduates again. And then later this year he is getting married. So I started searching and found a few make-up companies that appear safe.

When I bought the eyeshadow and blush I asked the rep if I could return the unopened product if the first product caused a reaction. She said to bring both back if one causes a reaction.

 

[Spideyman]

DiO'Bolic I just had the chance to read your post about sitting down with the young woman. I caught myself tearing up a few times.

I took a teen girl in once. It did not go well....but I knew it wouldn’t. It was a complete difference situation, including that she had zero interest in school and considered Welfare her life’s dream “job”.

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What I did today.....bought make-up.

What I am doing today.....patch tests with the make-up.

About 30ish years ago I stopped wearing make-up. It started causing me skin problems. Blotchy and what I eventually realized was hives. When my eyes completely swelled shut I researched and discovered perfumes have oil, including peanut oil or sesame seed oil. Almost all make-up had perfume. So, I was putting my allergens not only on my face but also on my eyes. And yes, on my lips. Which explains why I would suddenly develop a cough or a hoarse voice. So...I quit make-up.

But in about 6 weeks my son graduates, then in another 6 weeks he graduates again. And then later this year he is getting married. So I started searching and found a few make-up companies that appear safe.

When I bought the eyeshadow and blush I asked the rep if I could return the unopened product if the first product caused a reaction. She said to bring both back if one causes a reaction.

Congrats to your son on his graduations. Hope you can find the right make-up and no reactions.

 

[Sundrop]

Thanks everyone, but as of now it's just good intentions. The real test will be when, and if, it happens.

I read all of this after the MB had closed down on Friday......twice. Now, I can't bring myself to poke you with the stick.
Even if it is just good intentions at the moment, you're a good man, DiO. I hope everything works out well.