Kids are just damn hard to figure out sometimes. And they can hurt us deeper than any person on this planet. For all of you, solidarity.
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At least $1K down and a little over $200/mo for 18 mos. There are times I question the decision to raise our own kids, and this is one of those times. Thanks for the thoughts & prayers, Spidey.Skimom2- are there any payment plans available that are realistic and affordable? I hold you and DD#2 in prayers that it is just a phase and not depression. Sending positives vibes!
I just had a phone fight with our oldest. She's 22 and knows what she wants, and my opinion is nothing - I have "nothing to hold over her" as she says. We continue to support her somewhat, financially, and it's been a burden, but we've managed. Shouldn't I be allowed an opinion? Shouldn't she at least listen to my side? Oh, my aching feelings. I step in it no matter what I say to her. She's thrown us to the dogs. I was never so mean to my mom, even now at my age I don't get this ugly with my mom. Sadly, I don't think she'll understand until she has kids of her own.
I'm going to have to detach. Detachment, detachment, detachment..... this is not about me, this is not about MY will, this is not MY life.
Me too - I wish I was wealthy and could send them off to boarding school. An adventure for them and peace for me.At least $1K down and a little over $200/mo for 18 mos. There are times I question the decision to raise our own kids, and this is one of those times. Thanks for the thoughts & prayers, Spidey.
Bingo - alienation was the word I was looking for. I couldn't find it last night - I was shocked. Today I am sad, down the road I'll be angry and then I'll accept. She's got a genius IQ and amazing grades - but she's always been a little immature - so now, at 22, she's emotionally where I was at 18. And at 18, I jumped into a marriage right out of high school that ended badly, and I wouldn't listen to anyone who told me it was a mistake. We have to learn our own lessons. Ka is a wheel.Holly, that's just awful. We got through alienation of teenage years and got close again in adulthood. What you're talking about is every parent's nightmare come to fruition. Heart goes out to you.
Yep. Prayer is good My older two started to get better at about 16 (son wasn't such a horror--he was just surly & didn't really speak from 13-16. I think I prefer that to the drama of girls--lol).15 has been the height of horribleness for all three. And to think, I have this joy to go through again *SMH*Riot, Holly and ski Mom, I am sending you tons of hugs, prayers and calming vibes. I have a 14 yr old daughter. She isn't always the easiest most pleasant person to be around. I can just pray that it gets better as she ages??
Oh - that is my son exactly - he's surly and he's 13 - doesn't have much at all to say. But he's still sweet and respectful in a way that neither of my girls are. This youngest daughter of mine - oh boy - we're in trouble big with her. I think I'm just going to emancipate her when she's 15 so we can get it over with. The 22 year old is just making rash decisions that I think she'll regret - no drugs or boys or that kind of drama - just a complete change in direction in her career and education that is shocking and worrisome - we worry about her safety, the fallout of her decisions. But she won't listen to a thing we say.Yep. Prayer is good My older two started to get better at about 16 (son wasn't such a horror--he was just surly & didn't really speak from 13-16. I think I prefer that to the drama of girls--lol).15 has been the height of horribleness for all three. And to think, I have this joy to go through again *SMH*
Yep, prayer is always good. Surly/self absorbed describes my daughter to a tee. I chalked it up to hormones at first.....Now, I know it is just sheer attitude. It will pass should be my ( our) daily mantra. Hugs, prayers and calming vibes to you all.Yep. Prayer is good My older two started to get better at about 16 (son wasn't such a horror--he was just surly & didn't really speak from 13-16. I think I prefer that to the drama of girls--lol).15 has been the height of horribleness for all three. And to think, I have this joy to go through again *SMH*
Surly/self absorbed describes my daughter to a tee.
Secondhand, maybe? Or get one big enough to fit next year. Kids are pills.Here we are...last week of March, and I have to replace my son's winter coat. He, of course, stayed late after school, then comes home when I have to stay in to cook dinner. And he needs it replaced tonight because the temperature is winter today and dropping tomorrow.
But really, he shouldn't even need one until next November.
Hopefully, if I find one it's marked down. No guarantee on either of those points though.
Yes, go to the Goodwill. I bet you find a nice coat, cheap, that will get you through the rest of the year.Secondhand, maybe? Or get one big enough to fit next year. Kids are pills.