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I always taught my kids to use the word "maybe" if they can't commit. Sure, things happen in life that can change a yes to a no. But to me, if you make a commitment to someone, you follow through even at your own inconvenience. I told them, if you aren't sure about something, don't say yes. Say, maybe. People understand maybe and it's a lot more honest and less painful than giving your word and backing out.
Our insurance refused to pay the anesthesia - could that be it? As if you can get your teeth cut out without it. They have many pranks, those insurance companies.
I like to drive. I have this small, fast, if run-of-the-mill car that I enjoy hugely. A week or two ago, I drove to Dallas. Yesterday, I drove to Sidney (NE). Coming up soon: Rock Springs (WY).
Sometimes insurance companies draw the line on type of anesthetic.
Ages ago, when I was still undoubtedly older than you are now, I had an epiphany as someone cut me off in a lane.
I live in Atlanta GA, a big city like Denver. There is a big difference between traveling and commuting, especially in commuting in a big city. I've made it a personal policy to avoid traffic whenever possible, but sometimes it's impossible. Suddenly you're stuck in a catastrophic situation, and all there is is to plan to move to a smaller city.
A while back I decided not to allow tailgaters to get my blood pressure up. I started not caring what their problems were while getting out of their way asap. Road rage will get everyone participating into trouble of some kind eventually.
I'm trying very hard to be as you describe your now-self, and I'm doing better, but it's still hard for me sometimes.
You never know. In Atlanta, drivers seem so focused on their cell phones, I think they remain oblivious to reality from the time the sit down behind the wheel til they go to bed at night. It's conceivable that the driver you assume could care less actually does notice. The main thing is to protect yerself from letting someone else hurt you.
Okay. You got me. I can get angry when a person brings me to a dramatic slowdown or even a dead stop on a ramp, and the reason for that is because they're trying to kill me. I'll allow a little ire for that.
Absolutely. I can forgive people who think we are part of the Blue Angels. I get out of packs--we did not practice this maneuver, I don't know you. I can forgive those who dart in front of me because generally, you can tell when they're going to do it. Not always, but oftentimes and I'm prepared.
But if you can get over, it helps the flow of traffic, IMO. I've had to literally come to a complete stop on the shoulder of the interstate because a gigantic semi won't drive a few feet over to the left lane to allow me to merge in. It's common courtesy to me, if there's not another car passing you on the left, to allow me in at the 70 mph I'm traveling, instead of staying in the right lane and making me STOP before I can get in. You don't have to cut your speed at all to maneuver over for a few seconds. Generally, I'm going faster merging in than most people already traveling on the interstate...
Oh for sure, I said, if you can get over, get over. It is courtesy if you can. But I'm just saying, people don't have to get over for you. It's a d*ck move for sure, but they don't have to. So adjust the speed. And sometimes they just can't get over because there are other cars next to them, and that's understandable. But these lollygaggers. Don't drive on the freeway if you don't want to follow the laws. We do have to share these roads with everyone, so it pays to be kind.
Yes, it just helps everyone to be courteous. No one would be pulling out in front of me and going 25 mph, or jauntily parallel driving in the left lane if he were being courteous. That's all I'm asking.
Lollygaggers--such a great word.
