I Am Angry Today Because . . .

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Here's a story...

I brought my car to my regular mechanic last week to top off the tires, noticed that one was a little low, and asked them to check it. They found a nail in the passenger's front tire and patched it. I drove 215-or-so miles on Saturday (at speeds I will not mention for legal reasons), and when I got up in this morning, the supposedly patched tire was flat.

While it is wonderful that it didn't blow out at high speeds and kill me, I can only assume shoddy workmanship. This thought was backed up when I tried to remove the tire to put on the spare. Apparently, the guys at the shop stripped out the entirely unique, one-of-a-kind wheel lock key when putting the patched tire back on the car.

What does that mean? My car is sitting on a flat tire in a parking lot behind a hotel in Pennsyltuckey. At this point, I'm planning to get a hold of the wheel lock manufacturer tomorrow. If they don't have an immediate solution, I may be waiting for a key replacement to be mailed to me (if they even deal with me considering that I don't have the paperwork to prove that I own this lock set).

End of grumpy rant.

At least I have the interwebs ;).
 
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Here's a story...

I brought my car to my regular mechanic last week to top off the tires, noticed that one was a little low, and asked them to check it. They found a nail in the passenger's front tire and patched it. I drove 215-or-so miles on Saturday (at speeds I will not mention for legal reasons), and when I got up in this morning, the supposedly patched tire was flat.

While it is wonderful that it didn't blow out at high speeds and kill me, I can only assume shoddy workmanship. This thought was backed up when I tried to remove the tire to put on the spare. Apparently, the guys at the shop stripped out the entirely unique, one-of-a-kind wheel lock key when putting the patched tire back on the car.

What does that mean? My car is sitting on a flat tire in a parking lot behind a hotel in Pennsyltuckey. At this point, I'm planning to get a hold of the wheel lock manufacturer tomorrow. If they don't have an immediate solution, I may be waiting for a key replacement to be mailed to me (if they even deal with me considering that I don't have the paperwork to prove that I own this lock set).

End of grumpy rant.

At least I have the interwebs ;).

I had a similar problem last month... flat tire, couldn't find the wheel lock key, called the Mercury people - they no longer make wheel lock keys for '97 grand marquis', none of the auto shops had a set of generic keys. We finally found the key - hubby had pulled it out from the glove compartment but threw it on the seat because it didn't look like a key lol
 

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Can't remember who said this but I found that it helps.

Being angry at someone else is like drinking poison and waiting for them to die.
This is precisely what I was trying to remember, MadamMack.

Danie, if you don't feel you can trust the discretion of your local therapists—and they should be absolutely above reproach in that area, of course—then perhaps it would be good to look up some books on the subject. Nobody knows what you buy from Amazon except you. Well. You and the NSA.

That being said, I do want to say this about therapy: Having recently started myself, I think it can be useful for literally everyone. And I admire anyone who is willing to grab life by the balls and do the hard work that therapy entails. Maybe other people feel like starting therapy means you are admitting you're emotionally crippled or something, but I just wanted to say that that's the complete opposite of how I feel, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.
 

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Jordan, oh my gods that sucks.... i'm sorry, dude.

Here's a story...

I brought my car to my regular mechanic last week to top off the tires, noticed that one was a little low, and asked them to check it. They found a nail in the passenger's front tire and patched it. I drove 215-or-so miles on Saturday (at speeds I will not mention for legal reasons), and when I got up in this morning, the supposedly patched tire was flat.

While it is wonderful that it didn't blow out at high speeds and kill me, I can only assume shoddy workmanship. This thought was backed up when I tried to remove the tire to put on the spare. Apparently, the guys at the shop stripped out the entirely unique, one-of-a-kind wheel lock key when putting the patched tire back on the car.

What does that mean? My car is sitting on a flat tire in a parking lot behind a hotel in Pennsyltuckey. At this point, I'm planning to get a hold of the wheel lock manufacturer tomorrow. If they don't have an immediate solution, I may be waiting for a key replacement to be mailed to me (if they even deal with me considering that I don't have the paperwork to prove that I own this lock set).

End of grumpy rant.

At least I have the interwebs ;).
 

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being angry at someone else is like drinking poison and expecting them to die
Actually, being angry at someone that does something well and truly jacked up is completely normal. It's holding a grudge that damages a person.
Buddha said:
Holding onto your anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
 

Todash

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Actually, being angry at someone that does something well and truly jacked up is completely normal. It's holding a grudge that damages a person.
Right, it's that inability to let go that eats at you. Not that first bit of anger ... although if we are frequently angry, it's maybe good to examine whether that in itself is keeping us down.
 

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Right, it's that inability to let go that eats at you. Not that first bit of anger ... although if we are frequently angry, it's maybe good to examine whether that in itself is keeping us down.
If it's over the same thing, sure. But if somebody's antagonizing you frequently the fault lies equally with them.
Until we realize that they're not worth the effort it takes to be angry, and that Karma is a very real thing. And everybody rides that train.
 

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If it's over the same thing, sure. But if somebody's antagonizing you frequently the fault lies equally with them.
Until we realize that they're not worth the effort it takes to be angry, and that Karma is a very real thing. And everybody rides that train.
Right ... I was thinking more of people I know who seem angry at lots of people all the time for doing things that seem to me just ... being human. Like road rage. Everyone does stupid stuff occasionally when driving. Why get infuriated at someone for making a mistake?
 

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Right ... I was thinking more of people I know who seem angry at lots of people all the time for doing things that seem to me just ... being human. Like road rage. Everyone does stupid stuff occasionally when driving. Why get infuriated at someone for making a mistake?
hand up. I'm a beast in the car. I don't honk or flip anyone off, but I go totally hulk in my little beater. It's merging I tell ya, merging. If everyone would just learn to get on and off the freeway, my life could be peaceful.:my_bad:
 

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I definitely have something anger worthy.

For the first time in my life, I need to lose some weight. Forty pounds would be good, which would actually leave me heavier then I've ever been, but since I was always underweight, it would be good.

I'm not very good at losing weight. I'm trying to figure out what works and what doesn't. (apparently chocolate cake is on the doesn't list....who knew!)

Anyway, today I weighed myself, then did about 30 minutes of exercise, then weighed myself again. And I was up a pound. :mad: That can't be right.
 

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I definitely have something anger worthy.

For the first time in my life, I need to lose some weight. Forty pounds would be good, which would actually leave me heavier then I've ever been, but since I was always underweight, it would be good.

I'm not very good at losing weight. I'm trying to figure out what works and what doesn't. (apparently chocolate cake is on the doesn't list....who knew!)

Anyway, today I weighed myself, then did about 30 minutes of exercise, then weighed myself again. And I was up a pound. :mad: That can't be right.
Welcome to my world. I look like I have a food baby who just happens to be 7 years old and in the first grade.
 

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I'm no doctor, only a carpenter...

Sorry to go back so far, as well as for subverting the course of the discussion, but...
Walter, if it wasn't for carpenters my roof would fall on my head and the floor'd collapse under my feet. We'd all be as jiggered without folks like you as we would be without doctors, so you're just as important to the world. No "only" about it. :smile-new:
 

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I definitely have something anger worthy.

For the first time in my life, I need to lose some weight. Forty pounds would be good, which would actually leave me heavier then I've ever been, but since I was always underweight, it would be good.

I'm not very good at losing weight. I'm trying to figure out what works and what doesn't. (apparently chocolate cake is on the doesn't list....who knew!)

Anyway, today I weighed myself, then did about 30 minutes of exercise, then weighed myself again. And I was up a pound. :mad: That can't be right.
Protein. Have a protein drink half an hour before your meals and you'll be so full of good protein that you won't want to overdo it. And it keeps you full between meals too, so you don't snack. I'm not talking about slim fast or any of those gimmicks. I mean one that's got 30 grams of protein per cup. 38 if you mix it with milk. I use Body Fortress whey protein from walmart.
And for a snack, pick up a protein bar. They've got a yummy peanut butter and chocolate bar that's got 17 grams of proteins in it. Or a tasty greek yogurt.
Eat sensible meals, lean meats and vegetables, no starches like pasta - and watch those potatoes. Drink lots of water. You'll do great.
 

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I definitely have something anger worthy.

For the first time in my life, I need to lose some weight. Forty pounds would be good, which would actually leave me heavier then I've ever been, but since I was always underweight, it would be good.

I'm not very good at losing weight. I'm trying to figure out what works and what doesn't. (apparently chocolate cake is on the doesn't list....who knew!)

Anyway, today I weighed myself, then did about 30 minutes of exercise, then weighed myself again. And I was up a pound. :mad: That can't be right.


Usually after exercise, you actually retain water, AnnaMarie.... so you'll weigh in a little heavier. Try to only weigh yourself once a week and do it in the morning... like every Saturday morning for instance. Don't beat up on yourself.... losing weight is never easy but you can do it.
 

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Severe allergy to peanuts puts a lot of the protein stuff off limits for me. There may be safe ones. I know someone had asked on the allergy forum I go to, and at that time nobody knew of any. Walmart up here is actually good at labelling, so I'll check them.

But....my son was getting protein drinks to gain weight.

I have gone back to snacking on yogurt or fruits. And I do occasionally have a sweet, just not daily anymore. When I absolutely refused myself any sweets, I'd binge.
 

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Usually after exercise, you actually retain water, AnnaMarie.... so you'll weigh in a little heavier. Try to only weigh yourself once a week and do it in the morning... like every Saturday morning for instance. Don't beat up on yourself.... losing weight is never easy but you can do it.

REALLY? You aren't just making that up? I figured working til I started sweating would get rid of some of that water.

And usually I do just weigh in once a week. In the morning before eating. Today was just a dumb, failed experiment. I was hoping to see a difference, so on days I don 'to feel like exercising I could remind myself of this and it would be that little push I need. Working out hard enough to build a sweat if REALLY difficult for me mentally. It suddenly feels like I can't breath. This is not a physical problem, it's all in my head and I know that....but it's difficult to keep working through.

And btw, I started gaining the weight BEFORE I quit smoking. It may have speeded up a little bit afterwards, but I cannot honestly blame that.
 

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It's amount, too. You don't need to eat a side of beef every day. But I find that a little protein with every meal really helps the "stickiness" of the meal, plus for me it really helps me have enough energy to efficiently get through my workouts.

For me, the key has been that I "eat clean" (my version of clean, anyway*) six days a week, then have a cheat day** the seventh. I also try to work out in some way six days a week (and the cheat day and day off from working out are not the same day, which helps insure I don't go totally insane on cheat day because I still have to, for example, have enough protein to get through my workout).

*My eating clean:
1. Lots of veggies.
2. Some fruit, berries especially.
3. Lean protein (usually; sometimes we will have higher fat protein for dinner).
4. Reasonable amounts of healthy fat.
5. Whole grains only and not many of them.
6. NO white stuff (sugar, bread, rice, potato). Not too much sugar of even the natural variety.

**My cheat day rules:
1. Eat what I want as long as it allows me to do my workouts. (For me, this means no carb-only days, as those zonk me out.)
2. Really, truly eat what I want. Don't shove something unhealthy in my mouth simply to have a cheat.
3. Don't overeat. Stop when satisfied.
4. Cheat day never starts early or oozes into the next day. It's one day.