Looking back on my time in college, all my vices in college were due to loneliness. My addiction issues, everything was due to not being able to have the confidence to put my heart out there. Seeing my friends develop relationships was pure torture for the most part and just made me feel that much worse. The minute I met my ex wife I fell, hard. My entire reason for doing everything changed from a half ass death wish to complete devotion to her which, looking back now, was the wrong way to handle things, just traded one addiction for another pretty much.
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I am very lucky to have my boyfriend, I have a disability as well as recovering from a small head injury so to have someone that can help with my care has been amazing. I was used to be nearly independent before I met him, like living on my own and having a full-time job. I was worried about getting taken advantaged of but it's working out pretty well, don't give up there is someone out there for everyone.
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I'm happy for you - glad he is able to help you - this is very heartening for me as sometimes I worry if my son will ever be independent (((Kittens)))
What made it easy for me to transition from being all around family to being independent was the family support, they helped me with budgeting, how to cook all life skills I needed, and now I have my drivers license, I pay for everything myself (rent, bills food). But you sound like you love your son a lot so he will appreciate the support.
Right now I don't care if I never get married. I'm just trying to stay healthy. I had a scare just recently. My whole life flashed before my eyes.
I'm sorry you went through that, I hope things get better for you.
Glad that you're still here with us!
Somebody on my fb put this up! Who I am 100% sure never read an SK or any other novel.
You're too young to be single 4 the rest of your life . And judging by the avatar, too cute! Sounds like another relationship torn apart by 'The World's of Warcraft'! Sorry, that's a bit flippant, but I was friends with someone that actually happened to. A relationship destroyed by online gaming. Although I'm sure there were other factors. People find ways to emotionally disconnect themselves. You're valuable. (As am I!)
Stay optimistic. That's a wonderful quality. You know, I meet good decent caring people every day. Of both sexes. They are out there.
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Wow, thanks, grin willard ! Yeah, don’t worry about being blunt; you’re right. In the game of marriage, I lost to a computer screen! 
But I do hold out hope that my story is not yet over, although I spent many happy years thinking it was and that I was where I was meant to be.
Thanks for the pep talk!
But I do hold out hope that my story is not yet over, although I spent many happy years thinking it was and that I was where I was meant to be. Thanks for the pep talk!
People always tell me I look like I'm 25 because I don't age. I'm like a vampire. I could walk into any bar and all those millennials would just think I'm one of them.
People always tell me I look like I'm 25 because I don't age. I'm like a vampire. I could walk into any bar and all those millennials would just think I'm one of them.
Yeah. I'm gonna need a selfie to confirm that. Or I'm gonna need to know who them people are.
I picture you sort of like this:
It is always good to be open to new people. If they are not boyfriend materials, they could be great friends.
I used to like this one guy. Then I realized there's a reason why he's still single. He spends all his free time online. He doesn't even read anymore. He has no car and he lives in a crappy apartment. He's a bigger loser than I am. At least I work out, read and make art sometimes.
I try to be like that, friendly to anyone who is also friendly. Sometimes, it backfires. Take this weekend, for instance. This guy that my best friend has been off-and-on again with for the last thirteen years (...yeah) suddenly started messaging me on Facebook. I have never met him, and just knowing the silly mind games he plays and weird stuff that goes on in his life, I never wanted to know him in the least. At first, he was just really polite and friendly, and giving that we both like drawing and art, I thought he just wanted to chat about that. But then it started to become clear that he was interested in becoming more than friends. And that is with him knowing what I’m going through and that I’m no where near ready to date people again. That is also with him knowing full well that my friend is (for whatever reason) still in love with him. And like I wasn’t going to tell her immediately about what he was doing.
But then I felt guilty, because I know that caused her even more heartache. Ack! I thought this sort of drama only happened in high school.
I really have to learn how to be assertive and not let other people make me feel uncomfortable. I don’t owe anybody anything. I have to keep telling myself that.
A relationship is so much easier when know who you are.
Relationships are knowing who you are trying to find out if that person fits.
I could probably find a girlfriend, but man that just seems like a lot of effort. I'd rather lay around in my underwear eating junk food and watching Netflix or something. 
I listen to a lot of metal. But most of the long haired men I've known on a personal level were underachievers who never accomplished anything. Many of them were also stoners.