ghost19: Speaking for myself, I am most definitely not offended by that! You worded it beautifully, and it reflects exactly how I feel about this subject. I'm probably old-fashioned too, but this is honestly how I believe it should be.
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((ghostie)) You are a good man and a good dad to your sons!Very cool video DJ.
How you treat the lady in your life is paramount. It's important for so many reasons. If you have small kids in the house, that child is watching when you least expect he/she to be paying attention. They're watching your conversations, how you interact with one another, how you behave in each other's presence. If you've got a little boy running around the house as I do, I want him to see me hug his mom, laugh with her, rub her neck, make her smile, make her laugh, because he's watching me, I can feel it sometimes when he is. I want him to see me open the car door for her, open the door for her going into a restaurant or a store, I want to see him integrating how to treat a woman into his behavior from a young age so when he gets older he has the respect for women that women deserve, especially his mommy. Mostly I want him to see how she and I work together as a team to make sure he has everything he needs to grow up healthy and happy. You're always on a clock with children, you don't get any time off. They're watching you, analyzing you, and eventually, more than likely they're going to start integrating some of your behavior into theirs. When he does that, I want to make sure there isn't any about question how much I love the woman that he also loves as his mommy. If I make her feel safe and happy, he feels safe and happy because SHE'S safe and happy, that's what matters.
(Hope I didn't offend any ladies with the opening doors thing, I know that's frowned upon by some nowadays, but I mean absolutely NO disrespect.) It's the opposite, it's a sign of respect for my wife when I do so. She seems to appreciate it and always takes the time to thank me for doing it. Maybe it's old fashioned I guess, but some traditions aren't totally bad are they?
Thank you ma'am.ghost19: Speaking for myself, I am most definitely not offended by that! You worded it beautifully, and it reflects exactly how I feel about this subject. I'm probably old-fashioned too, but this is honestly how I believe it should be.
Even worse, for sure! That's just plain ignorant.Or goes thru before you and then lets the door go right as you THINK they're going to hold it and you end up eating the side of the door. I hate that.
I lean toward being a feminist, but as far as the door thing goes, that's just common courtesy. I'll hold the door for anyone who happens to be there at the same time as I am and appreciate it when someone else does it for me. The one thing that does irritate me is when I do that and the person just strolls by without even a thank you as though I'm their personal doorman.
Or goes thru before you and then lets the door go right as you THINK they're going to hold it and you end up eating the side of the door. I hate that.
((ghostie)) You are a good man and a good dad to your sons!
I'm on the same side as Ms. Mod, ie: I will open a door for you if I get there first, and I appreciate if you do the same. If you are a gentleman, who rushes to get the door first, I appreciate the effort. And I will just go on the record now, saying that it majorly ticks me off to see a women get offended when this happens to her! The gentleman is not implying that you are weak and can't open the freakin' door, he is being nice! Accept it graciously and move on! Otherwise, you are taking a nice deed and turning it into an unpleasant moment for all involved and in ear shot. Thank you! ~~~ steps down of soap box and drops the mic~~~
Doc, that is absolutely perfect sir. ROTFLMAO.....
It's not old fashion to open a door. It is a sign of respect, courtesy, good manners. So much of etiquette has been lost to this generation. Thank you for being the person you are ghost19 . Thank you for teaching the observing eye of you sons.Very cool video DJ.
How you treat the lady in your life is paramount. It's important for so many reasons. If you have small kids in the house, that child is watching when you least expect he/she to be paying attention. They're watching your conversations, how you interact with one another, how you behave in each other's presence. If you've got a little boy running around the house as I do, I want him to see me hug his mom, laugh with her, rub her neck, make her smile, make her laugh, because he's watching me, I can feel it sometimes when he is. I want him to see me open the car door for her, open the door for her going into a restaurant or a store, I want to see him integrating how to treat a woman into his behavior from a young age so when he gets older he has the respect for women that women deserve, especially his mommy. Mostly I want him to see how she and I work together as a team to make sure he has everything he needs to grow up healthy and happy. You're always on a clock with children, you don't get any time off. They're watching you, analyzing you, and eventually, more than likely they're going to start integrating some of your behavior into theirs. When he does that, I want to make sure there isn't any about question how much I love the woman that he also loves as his mommy. If I make her feel safe and happy, he feels safe and happy because SHE'S safe and happy, that's what matters.
(Hope I didn't offend any ladies with the opening doors thing, I know that's frowned upon by some nowadays, but I mean absolutely NO disrespect.) It's the opposite, it's a sign of respect for my wife when I do so. She seems to appreciate it and always takes the time to thank me for doing it. Maybe it's old fashioned I guess, but some traditions aren't totally bad are they?
absolutely not offended. I feel bad for guys. Damned if they do, damned if they don't.Very cool video DJ.
How you treat the lady in your life is paramount. It's important for so many reasons. If you have small kids in the house, that child is watching when you least expect he/she to be paying attention. They're watching your conversations, how you interact with one another, how you behave in each other's presence. If you've got a little boy running around the house as I do, I want him to see me hug his mom, laugh with her, rub her neck, make her smile, make her laugh, because he's watching me, I can feel it sometimes when he is. I want him to see me open the car door for her, open the door for her going into a restaurant or a store, I want to see him integrating how to treat a woman into his behavior from a young age so when he gets older he has the respect for women that women deserve, especially his mommy. Mostly I want him to see how she and I work together as a team to make sure he has everything he needs to grow up healthy and happy. You're always on a clock with children, you don't get any time off. They're watching you, analyzing you, and eventually, more than likely they're going to start integrating some of your behavior into theirs. When he does that, I want to make sure there isn't any about question how much I love the woman that he also loves as his mommy. If I make her feel safe and happy, he feels safe and happy because SHE'S safe and happy, that's what matters.
(Hope I didn't offend any ladies with the opening doors thing, I know that's frowned upon by some nowadays, but I mean absolutely NO disrespect.) It's the opposite, it's a sign of respect for my wife when I do so. She seems to appreciate it and always takes the time to thank me for doing it. Maybe it's old fashioned I guess, but some traditions aren't totally bad are they?
Yes. Common courtesy to say thank you!I lean toward being a feminist, but as far as the door thing goes, that's just common courtesy. I'll hold the door for anyone who happens to be there at the same time as I am and appreciate it when someone else does it for me. The one thing that does irritate me is when I do that and the person just strolls by without even a thank you as though I'm their personal doorman.
THey are terrible! Nobody is teaching their kids manners!It's not old fashion to open a door. It is a sign of respect, courtesy, good manners. So much of etiquette has been lost to this generation. Thank you for being the person you are ghost19 . Thank you for teaching the observing eye of you sons.
Exactly. Well said.((ghostie)) You are a good man and a good dad to your sons!
I'm on the same side as Ms. Mod, ie: I will open a door for you if I get there first, and I appreciate if you do the same. If you are a gentleman, who rushes to get the door first, I appreciate the effort. And I will just go on the record now, saying that it majorly ticks me off to see a women get offended when this happens to her! The gentleman is not implying that you are weak and can't open the freakin' door, he is being nice! Accept it graciously and move on! Otherwise, you are taking a nice deed and turning it into an unpleasant moment for all involved and in ear shot. Thank you! ~~~ steps down of soap box and drops the mic~~~
I'm sure I told this story before. It is so awkward. And to be honest, I was hurt. I was just trying to be nice. As I would do for anyone, like Marsha mentioned, when I got to the door first.I have gotten that reaction a few times over the years, it kind of makes it awkward. Do you just release the door as they walk in and they walk into it or hold your ground and take the sneers and the snarky comment of "I CAN OPEN A DOOR BY MYSELF!"????
Also, I do notice my 14 year old son will sometimes beat me to the door and open it for Tamara and Aidan. I like to see that. I usually retaliate by grabbing him and playfully shove him thru the door before I go in. He usually cracks up pretty good because he's not expecting it.
Maybe Moderator could confirm.
It may be the picture that's in Post #5,072 (you might have to go back a page).do you have a link to this picture. I whould like to see. google had nothing but pics of hotdogs.
You do the proper thing-- you pick up what the elderly lady dropped, and if she says thank you- you reply you are welcome. If , instead, she makes and unkind remark, you smile and simply say-- I needed the exercise and smile again.
If you are seated on a bus, once again- offer the seat. Elderly people often feel they are losing "control" of their lives as they are unable to do as much as they would like. You can again simply say, I would feel it safer for you to sit than stand on a moving bus. Always smile. Always show respect.
You do the proper thing-- you pick up what the elderly lady dropped, and if she says thank you- you reply you are welcome. If , instead, she makes and unkind remark, you smile and simply say-- I needed the exercise and smile again.
If you are seated on a bus, once again- offer the seat. Elderly people often feel they are losing "control" of their lives as they are unable to do as much as they would like. You can again simply say, I would feel it safer for you to sit than stand on a moving bus. Always smile. Always show respect.