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Would like to reintroduce myself (been gone a long time)

Discussion in 'Newbies Start Here' started by melindaville, Oct 2, 2017.

  1. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    Hi Everyone,

    Please believe me when I say that I am not trying to make a dramatic post here but I'd just like to reintroduce myself to everyone.

    I don't think most people would remember me but I posted here quite a while back and with some frequency.

    I've had a rough five-year patch. I suffer from depression and have gone through a particularly hard spell for the last five years. I talk openly about this because it has been a lifetime struggle and there is such stigma surrounding this (and other mental health issues) that I think it's important to 'normalize' depression. After all, more people missed work due to depression last year than all other physical illnesses alone (although depression can have physical symptoms as well as psychological ones). I have learned much in the last five years though--about myself, about how to treat depression before it has a chance to settle in, and about mindfulness and being grateful.

    There are so many nice people here and some of you have been so lovely in welcoming me, whether you remember me or not. I remember most of the long time members and it's really great to see everyone again.

    xo, Melinda (aka melindaville).
     
  2. Dana Jean

    Dana Jean Reformed Dirty Pirate Hooker Moderator

    Did you post under this user name or something else?
     
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  3. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    No, I was always Melindaville. I remembered my email address and password. I keep them all in a spreadsheet. I did have a different picture but it's been quite a long time since I posted (I believe it was just after 11/22/63 came out).
     
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  4. carrie's younger brother

    carrie's younger brother Well-Known Member

    Great post melindaville. I suffer from General Anxiety Disorder. Needless to say, depression is part of it. With the help of a good therapist and a great support system, I have learned to live with it. It's not easy sometimes but it can be done. Thanks for posting this and being so honest. It's a great step in the right direction of getting the word out there.
     
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  5. Srbo

    Srbo Uber Member

    Well, welcome back. :)
     
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  6. GNTLGNT

    GNTLGNT The idiot is IN

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  7. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    Thank YOU for sharing your own GAD--that's a killer as I have anxiety issues as well. I have been working with a great therapist for almost 3 years now, something I should have done a long time ago. For many years, I masked my depression with medications (I used to be a heroin addict and was homeless for a while). Today, I'm a psychologist (and a writer). I feel it is so important for people to talk about this. It should be as comfortable for a person to talk about depression as it is for them to talk about getting migraines.

    Here's a (((((((hug))))). I'm so glad you have a network of support and a good therapist. And thank you again.
     
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  8. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    Thank you very much. I can't tell you how nice it is to be back! :)
     
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  9. Out of Order

    Out of Order Need More Time

    I went to Melindaville once, or maybe that was Balindaville......?
     
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  10. GNTLGNT

    GNTLGNT The idiot is IN

    ...."wastin' away again in Melindaville, lookin' for my lost shaker of salt...."
     
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  11. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    They are often confused. Sometimes I get stuck in Balindaville on my way....
     
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  12. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    Hahahahahaha! Nice. Love Jimmy Buffet.
     
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  13. king family fan

    king family fan Prolific member

    Welcome! Glad you came back home.
     
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  14. Paddy C

    Paddy C All Hail The KING...

    Hi Melinda. Nice to hear that you made it through and are feeling better now.
     
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  15. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    Thanks so much, sincerely. :)
     
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  16. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    Thank you so much. It's a pleasure to meet you!
     
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  17. Paddy C

    Paddy C All Hail The KING...

    Likewise...:encouragement:
     
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  18. Dana Jean

    Dana Jean Reformed Dirty Pirate Hooker Moderator

    Well, I'm glad you found your way home. You have overcome a lot to become a psychologist. And it sounds like you are a good one who knows what she is talking about. Unfortunately, there are so many bad ones out there.
     
  19. morgan

    morgan Well-Known Member

    Welcome back. Bless you for using your own struggles to help others.
     
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  20. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    Dana Jean, you are so right; there are a ton of poor psychologists out there and I've met my share. I'm not really a clinical psychologist; I teach psychology and human development to college students but my primary work has been with children who have survived sexual abuse. That is what feeds my soul. And thank you for the warm welcome. I appreciate it.
     
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