I think apologies are way underrated. A sincere apology has healing power for both the giver and receiver.
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...no kidding...if I ho up, which I do quite often-my apologies are sincere and I hope well received...I think apologies are way underrated. A sincere apology has healing power for both the giver and receiver.
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I agree, and as far as I can figure what other choice do we have at those times but to apologize hoping against hope for some level of forgiveness?I think apologies are way underrated. A sincere apology has healing power for both the giver and receiver.
Insincere = worthless.Interesting topic. My daughter went through a phase at 9 where she apologized for everything! It was "I'm sorry, I'm sorry" all day long. When it's said that way, it tends to lose it's affect, so we worked to break that habit. Apologies can be powerful if they are meant, but when it's just words, it is meaningless.
You can always tell an addict....Not unusual to have several books going at any given time...
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The best apology I ever got was from my husband. Interestingly, he clearly had no expectation of forgiveness; it wasn't even in his mind at the time. It was just "I thought I wasn't doing this, but I was, and I just realized, and I am so, so sorry, and I will never do it again." That apology is why we are still married—a big part of it, anyway.I agree, and as far as I can figure what other choice do we have at those times but to apologize hoping against hope for some level of forgiveness?
My partner says this a lot and I think...
My mom has had a copy of this personality/temperament test for YEARS! I'm almost 100% melancholy!That's what friends and loved ones and perfect strangers have always told me. I believe it's partly a temperament thing. You might be of a melancholic temperament like I am. Melancholics take the weight of the world on their shoulders, are perfectionists, have the highest standards of any humans, and live extra stressfully consequently.
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That would be so irritating. But I have to admit that when I read this, I heard my therapist Mike talking. (I love Mike; he's awesome. I should totally make a check-in appointment.) Anyway, Mike would say "the only things we have to do are change and die. Everything else is a choice." He also would say, when I said I "should" do something, "Why should you?" While this sounds selfish, at first glance, it's amazing how much more grown up I became when I realized that I didn't actually have to do any of the stuff I thought I had to do, but instead, I could choose to want to do those things because they supported the type of person I wanted to be. It is SO much easier for me to clean the kitchen if I don't tell myself I have to do it—although that is an old habit that isn't completely dead—but instead say to myself "I want to clean the kitchen so that when I wake up tomorrow, it's not a mess staring me in the face, and I can make my coffee and relax for a few minutes." That mindset somehow also made it much easier for me to just ask my husband for help ("Hey, can you help me fold and put away these clothes real quick?") than to be a martyr. I used to be really good at martyrdom and passive-aggressiveness. Probably could have taught a class.My partner says this a lot and I think...
he thinks it means that he never has to say sorry for the things he shouldn't do.
That would be so irritating. But I have to admit that when I read this, I heard my therapist Mike talking. (I love Mike; he's awesome. I should totally make a check-in appointment.) Anyway, Mike would say "the only things we have to do are change and die. Everything else is a choice." He also would say, when I said I "should" do something, "Why should you?" While this sounds selfish, at first glance, it's amazing how much more grown up I became when I realized that I didn't actually have to do any of the stuff I thought I had to do, but instead, I could choose to want to do those things because they supported the type of person I wanted to be. It is SO much easier for me to clean the kitchen if I don't tell myself I have to do it—although that is an old habit that isn't completely dead—but instead say to myself "I want to clean the kitchen so that when I wake up tomorrow, it's not a mess staring me in the face, and I can make my coffee and relax for a few minutes." That mindset somehow also made it much easier for me to just ask my husband for help ("Hey, can you help me fold and put away these clothes real quick?") than to be a martyr. I used to be really good at martyrdom and passive-aggressiveness. Probably could have taught a class.
Sometimes it's true that I don't want to clean the kitchen. So ... I don't. And the world doesn't end.
Indeed it is. Not the kind that'll sculpt your body, but it's absolutely the kind that will help keep you kickin' years longer.I tell myself house cleaning = exercise. It works most of the time, especially when I have some music in the background.
I live on forgiveness, and am learning how to apologize and mean it.The best apology I ever got was from my husband. Interestingly, he clearly had no expectation of forgiveness; it wasn't even in his mind at the time. It was just "I thought I wasn't doing this, but I was, and I just realized, and I am so, so sorry, and I will never do it again." That apology is why we are still married—a big part of it, anyway.
Apologies are powerful. So is forgiveness.
Movement is exercise. Studies show that active people who don't "exercise" are still healthier and less overweight.I tell myself house cleaning = exercise. It works most of the time, especially when I have some music in the background.
I am too, like 90%.My mom has had a copy of this personality/temperament test for YEARS! I'm almost 100% melancholy!
I am too, like 90%.
...yeah, I know...but it was just to good to pass up....and seedless as well....