I Am Angry Today Because . . .

[Spideyman]

I am angry at myself today. My mom needs positive energy after her accident, but I had nothing but fear, depression, and sadness today. I'm so scared she'll be out of commission for a long time. She doesn't have any benefits at her job (sick leave, vacation, etc.). If she is out of work for weeks, I don't know how the bills will be paid. I contribute every month, but don't know how much extra will be needed. I'm hoping her church will be able to help. Don't know why I feel so incredibly hopeless, maybe because I've barely slept in four days (I sure hope I'm putting on a braver face for her sake - I'm trying!).

One step at a time, Morgan. See only the positives and try to put the negatives aside- Yes, it is difficult, but you will find you attract more good. Talk with your church, talk with her social worker at the hospital. Most companies will work with smaller or delayed payments. Know and feel the love from the SKKMB. (((Morgan)))

 

[Moderator]

(((morgan))) Great advice already given by those above so will just ditto what they've advised.

 

[king family fan]

I am angry at myself today. My mom needs positive energy after her accident, but I had nothing but fear, depression, and sadness today. I'm so scared she'll be out of commission for a long time. She doesn't have any benefits at her job (sick leave, vacation, etc.). If she is out of work for weeks, I don't know how the bills will be paid. I contribute every month, but don't know how much extra will be needed. I'm hoping her church will be able to help. Don't know why I feel so incredibly hopeless, maybe because I've barely slept in four days (I sure hope I'm putting on a braver face for her sake - I'm trying!).

You will get through this. Sometimes things are tough but know you are doing your best.If you need me call. I am praying for the two of you. Just know i am here.Day or night.

 

[Dana Jean]

Not angry, but sad. This year has been a toughie--BH got a better job: not as physically taxing, uses more of his skills and experience, more $/hr, but it came with a trade off: very little OT and no bonuses. At the same time, my income from writing has plummeted. Still selling books, but my new publisher has an agreement with Amazon, and somehow I'm not making much of anything anymore (Amazon rant averted. Thank me, because it's an ugly one. I HATE Amazon and Kindle Unlimited.). I lost an entire finished manuscript and parts of three others in the computer snafu at the end of last year, and I've not been able to make that up. After looking at our family books and feeling mighty sad about the lean Christmas my kids are having this year, I think I'm going to have to get a regular job for the first time in almost 20 years. It will be a big change, as I've been able to take care of my kids and be the available parent while doing what I love to do--it's truly a blessing.

I'm sadder than I've been in a very long time. There isn't anything I'd rather do than write and be a mom, as silly as that sounds. Newspaper income just isn't making up the difference. I'm going to be taking a break, because nothing positive is going to be coming out of me for a while.

I didn't want to worry my second family by pulling a disappearing trick, though.

Here's hoping for a wonderful, peaceful Christmas for my SKMB family, and a better new year. (((SKMB)))

I hope that xmas and new years was good to you and you found some peace.

 

[AnnaMarie]

Not really angry. But I'm in the dog house....again.

High schools here have what they refer to as "culminating activities". These are usually in classes that do not have exams. So, a student may have one or more classes that a very large project is due, shortly before exam period starts.

My son gets really stressed with these things.

He came home Monday and said that Friday he would need to stay home in the morning to finish his culminating for one of his classes as he wouldn't have have enough time in class. This would require ME to sign off on the time he misses ( something I am sometimes willing to do). So I said.....well, you have a week. So, instead of playing video games, work on that assignment every night. Well! The look I got! And he hasn't spoken to me since.

 

[Spideyman]

Not really angry. But I'm in the dog house....again.

High schools here have what they refer to as "culminating activities". These are usually in classes that do not have exams. So, a student may have one or more classes that a very large project is due, shortly before exam period starts.

My son gets really stressed with these things.

He came home Monday and said that Friday he would need to stay home in the morning to finish his culminating for one of his classes as he wouldn't have have enough time in class. This would require ME to sign off on the time he misses ( something I am sometimes willing to do). So I said.....well, you have a week. So, instead of playing video games, work on that assignment every night. Well! The look I got! And he hasn't spoken to me since.

(((AnnaMarie))) and motivating vibes for your son.

 

[niro]

Not really angry. But I'm in the dog house....again.

High schools here have what they refer to as "culminating activities". These are usually in classes that do not have exams. So, a student may have one or more classes that a very large project is due, shortly before exam period starts.

My son gets really stressed with these things.

He came home Monday and said that Friday he would need to stay home in the morning to finish his culminating for one of his classes as he wouldn't have have enough time in class. This would require ME to sign off on the time he misses ( something I am sometimes willing to do). So I said.....well, you have a week. So, instead of playing video games, work on that assignment every night. Well! The look I got! And he hasn't spoken to me since.

Guess you teach him a lesson for his life. Hope he is done with it till thursday evening.

 

[AnnaMarie]

He is a good kid. And he's usually respectful.

I mean, how many 17 year olds would have just skipped off class, or felt if there wasn't time, to bad it won't get done. And he didn't swear or yell. He just glared at me and walked away....and now isn't talking. If I ask him a direct question he mumble/whispers. He knows I find that infuriating. When I walk away, I'm positive he is smirking.

I find exam time as his mother much more stressful than I did when I was a student.

The homework he had to do last night in preparation.....watch two movies. I'm not kidding either. The course is about film and he needs to compare some movies...Ridley Scott I think.

 

[notebookgirl]

Not angry, but sad. This year has been a toughie--BH got a better job: not as physically taxing, uses more of his skills and experience, more $/hr, but it came with a trade off: very little OT and no bonuses. At the same time, my income from writing has plummeted. Still selling books, but my new publisher has an agreement with Amazon, and somehow I'm not making much of anything anymore (Amazon rant averted. Thank me, because it's an ugly one. I HATE Amazon and Kindle Unlimited.). I lost an entire finished manuscript and parts of three others in the computer snafu at the end of last year, and I've not been able to make that up. After looking at our family books and feeling mighty sad about the lean Christmas my kids are having this year, I think I'm going to have to get a regular job for the first time in almost 20 years. It will be a big change, as I've been able to take care of my kids and be the available parent while doing what I love to do--it's truly a blessing.

I'm sadder than I've been in a very long time. There isn't anything I'd rather do than write and be a mom, as silly as that sounds. Newspaper income just isn't making up the difference. I'm going to be taking a break, because nothing positive is going to be coming out of me for a while.

I didn't want to worry my second family by pulling a disappearing trick, though.

Here's hoping for a wonderful, peaceful Christmas for my SKMB family, and a better new year. (((SKMB)))

Hoping for a better year for you too Skimom2!

 

[not_nadine]

This car. So much aggravation getting it Registered, Tagged, Insured and still working on transferring drivers license. (another story)

Did not have the tools to put the new tag on. (thanks, ex-room mate)

Finally, some guy at work was nice enough to put the back one on for me. I still need the front one. Drill into car.

Today, in good mood - I got pulled over and got a ticket! I have not had a ticket in ever. Seems I 'caused a risk'. err, I didn't know. I crossed the yellow line a little bit getting to a turning lane while going around a long line of cars going straight. My fault.

TAK! Just glad I took care of all that other stuff last week. Lucky he did not notice the front tag was not put on.

 

[Spideyman]

This car. So much aggravation getting it Registered, Tagged, Insured and still working on transferring drivers license. (another story)

Did not have the tools to put the new tag on. (thanks, ex-room mate)

Finally, some guy at work was nice enough to put the back one on for me. I still need the front one. Drill into car.

Today, in good mood - I got pulled over and got a ticket! I have not had a ticket in ever. Seems I 'caused a risk'. err, I didn't know. I crossed the yellow line a little bit getting to a turning lane while going around a long line of cars going straight. My fault.

TAK! Just glad I took care of all that other stuff last week. Lucky he did not notice the front tag was not put on.

((NN))

 

[Dana Jean]

I am angry today because I lent a friend $3500 four years ago with a promise to be paid back. Since, I've received no offer of payback. As soon as the check cleared communication went from almost daily to almost never.

I am deeply hurt and ashamed that someone could deceive me so thoroughly. God forgive those of the easy touch.

Blunty, any updates on this? Did this person do the right thing and pay you back?

 

[TheRedQueen]

You know, I hate it when someone asks me to voice a concern or opinion, and right in the middle of me trying to answer their question, they suddenly decide that they have a more important point to make that is directly counter to whatever point I'm trying to make. And when I try to respectfully finish making my own point, it earns me this snotty glare and a comment along the lines of "May I finish?" It just seems rude, and it makes me want to leave the vicinity without uttering another word. I have a hard enough time expressing myself verbally. It pisses me off when people act like I'm a waste of time.

Anyway. Enough complaining. Just had to get that out before I dropped it in my husband's lap. Say sorry.

 

[CoriSCapnSkip]

Yeah. When people say they will listen, and then tell me to shut up, and claim they respect my opinion. They're lying, which pisses me off in itself, but worse I suspect they may be setting me up for some terrible downfall towards which they are cleverly taking their time in manipulating me.

 

[Tery]

Most people don't really want to converse, they just want to talk and look like they're conversing. They wait while you talk (often interrupting), all the while thinking of what they will say. This is why learning how to actively listen can be such a revelation. To actively listen, you must repeat what the other person said to you. For example, if someone tells you that they feel ignored, you say, "I hear you saying that you feel you're being ignored." Then you say your piece. Yeah, it sounds all NewAgey. But it does work.

 

[FlakeNoir]

Most people don't really want to converse, they just want to talk and look like they're conversing. They wait while you talk (often interrupting), all the while thinking of what they will say. This is why learning how to actively listen can be such a revelation. To actively listen, you must repeat what the other person said to you. For example, if someone tells you that they feel ignored, you say, "I hear you saying that you feel you're being ignored." Then you say your piece. Yeah, it sounds all NewAgey. But it does work.

This... you're so right, Tery.

 

[Sundrop]

Most people don't really want to converse, they just want to talk and look like they're conversing. They wait while you talk (often interrupting), all the while thinking of what they will say. This is why learning how to actively listen can be such a revelation. To actively listen, you must repeat what the other person said to you. For example, if someone tells you that they feel ignored, you say, "I hear you saying that you feel you're being ignored." Then you say your piece. Yeah, it sounds all NewAgey. But it does work.

We had classes on active listening at a salon I worked for back in 1988.....I still practice this today.

 

[TheRedQueen]

Listening has always been a skill. I'm an introvert, after all, and a fairly "extreme" one. It's expressing myself that's hard, especially when the people around me are big talkers. I get tongue tied easily, I lose my train of thought, I stutter, and the more nervous I get the less sense I make. It's all too easy for me to sit there in silence and let someone roll over me with their own blather. Why can't everyone be like the people here on the Board? We hear each other, we listen, we care.

And I'm very, very thankful that you guys understand. It helps a lot. Thank you for listening.

 

[doowopgirl]

Listening has always been a skill. I'm an introvert, after all, and a fairly "extreme" one. It's expressing myself that's hard, especially when the people around me are big talkers. I get tongue tied easily, I lose my train of thought, I stutter, and the more nervous I get the less sense I make. It's all too easy for me to sit there in silence and let someone roll over me with their own blather. Why can't everyone be like the people here on the Board? We hear each other, we listen, we care.

And I'm very, very thankful that you guys understand. It helps a lot. Thank you for listening.

You are more than welcome. Sometimes it's easier to communicate with people who think the same and have the same likes. Also online is not face to face, so nerves disappear.

 

[mcpon14]

You know, I hate it when someone asks me to voice a concern or opinion, and right in the middle of me trying to answer their question, they suddenly decide that they have a more important point to make that is directly counter to whatever point I'm trying to make. And when I try to respectfully finish making my own point, it earns me this snotty glare and a comment along the lines of "May I finish?" It just seems rude, and it makes me want to leave the vicinity without uttering another word. I have a hard enough time expressing myself verbally. It pisses me off when people act like I'm a waste of time.

Anyway. Enough complaining. Just had to get that out before I dropped it in my husband's lap. Say sorry.

That sucks when that happens.