...neither is mine, but in the case of a personal decision like this-it's not their wishes I'm concerned about.....
What do you want on your tombstone?
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I agree. A person's final wish should be honored if at all possible.
I will also be cremated and I encourage everyone to read An American Way of Death - Revisited by Jessica Mitford. It is a huge eye opener about dying and the death industry. If you have people in your life opposed to cremation, have them read this book. If they are still opposed to it afterwards, than more power to them. But at least they will have a more well rounded opinion. (not meaning to sound insulting, more information is always good.)
Aye, my colossal colleague. Put me to the torch as well...on a big ol Viking funeral pyre, and just float me out and down the Tippecanoe River. My luck I'll get caught on a trot line and burn down half the forest. So be it.
I don't have strong feelings either way about cremation. I'll be long gone by that point. BUT I do have strong feelings about scattering ashes. I think that should be left to the family to decide (if there is family). My dad and brother were both cremated--that's no biggie--and their ashes were handled differently. My brother resides on my mom's mantle; it creeps me out a bit, but it's her choice. She chose to have my dad's ashes scattered in a river, and I loathe that. I have from the beginning. Maybe it's because my grandma's second husband was a sexton and we grew up playing the cemetery where many of my ancestors are buried. Visiting them is comforting--our biggest family reunions have revolved around Memorial Day and visiting that cemetery as a group and talking and laughing about the people there. They're still part of the family, ya ken? There's nothing like that for my dad. It makes me very mournful. I won't do that to my kids--they can decide what happens. Maybe they won't care one way or another, and that's okay by me, as well. My preference would be burial, whether ashes or body.
....I read this on your recommendation and agree...no one should have to worry about the funerary flim-flam game....
...you'll excuse me if I laugh uproariously at the image....I can see Skeeter comin' down to check the catch of the day and decidin' roast rat is fair to middlin' better on the plate than carp any day......
....well stated....I won't be in an urn cum garbage can, just a box somewhere till Tracy passes and then I'm to go with her....an eternal hemorrhoid....
My body lie but still I roam. (Metallica)
Exactly. I have no qualms with burial of ashes in a designated grave site.
The folderol of a body burial is not my cup o' tea. But, I do honor and respect everyone's choice in the matter.
I'm going to be cremated so it should say 'Best piece of ash EVER!'
Wow. Thank you. It's nice to know someone took the time.
Annie Wilkes could always bring out her axe and take care of the height issue, my friend......
....I have since passed it to a colleague whose husband is employed by our state mortuary board and is also an embalmer...
...I actually suggested Marsha's wood chipper...
I really honestly appreciate your time in reading my suggestion. It is a fascinating look into the business, and apparently the Undertakers of America weren't wildly happy that this book was published. I hope you did find it interesting and it did give you some good information to base your decision on.
I told my husband and one son, I want to be cremated. I would prefer ashes scattered...Northumberland Strait would be nice. But it's up to family. I've requested no burial because it's a ruddy waste of money. I also do not want an actual funeral. They can all go out for dinner...celebrate or whatever.
I told hubby I will tell my sister so she doesn't give him a hard time. He said I also have to tell all our kids.
Oh, I also suggested he bring a peanut butter jar to out my ashes in, just because I thought that would be funny. My son looked at me oddly....then shrugged and said something about being "for sure for sure". (Because I'm allergic to peanuts, he was thinking being out in a peanut butter jar would make certain I was really dead. Because apparently I might live through cremation.)
I told hubby I will tell my sister so she doesn't give him a hard time. He said I also have to tell all our kids.
Oh, I also suggested he bring a peanut butter jar to out my ashes in, just because I thought that would be funny. My son looked at me oddly....then shrugged and said something about being "for sure for sure". (Because I'm allergic to peanuts, he was thinking being out in a peanut butter jar would make certain I was really dead. Because apparently I might live through cremation.)
I'm gonna get cremated. And no stone. There is a memory garden where you go in these cases. When i go to visit my mother i go to that cemetarys memory garden where she was cremated.