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If YOU Could Go Back In Time In Your Life...

Discussion in '11/22/63' started by BrokenolMarine, Dec 20, 2016.

  1. Religiously_Unkind

    Religiously_Unkind Well-Known Member

    I would make sure that I didn't wreck my relationship with my first love and then the horrible events that followed would never happen (suicide attempt, sleeping pill addiction, not going to college, etc.)
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  2. Great Dane

    Great Dane Well-Known Member

    I would go back to the early 80's and invest in those wacky, unknown companies called Microsoft and Apple...
  3. DiO'Bolic

    DiO'Bolic Not completely obtuse

    I would have taken the blue pill, instead of the red pill. :)
  4. thekidd12

    thekidd12 Baseball is a good thing.Always was,always will be

    Aren't millions of dudes taking those blue pills every day???

    Wait that was a Matrix reference wasn't it???

  5. Chelle71

    Chelle71 Well-Known Member

    If I knew what I knew now...yeah I would go back and beg my sister not to go back to Melbourne to work but to stay home and see a good doctor...then she wouldn't have been misdiagnosed :(
  6. Grannie CeeCee

    Grannie CeeCee Well-Known Member

    oh, yes. I would go back. I would change three things. I'd be tempted to change other things, but no. Just these three.

    I made three well thought out, responsible decisions and everything turned out so, so horrible.

    Regrets are an antidote to hubris.
  7. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    I would love to go back and change some of the poor choices I made. I know exactly the moment when I made a choice that would affect every single thing that happened to me after. There was this guy who wrote for Backwood Homes Magazine, which is a small magazine, meant for outdoors people and those who are interested in learning to live off the grid. I never read the magazine but I heard the story. There were always shortages in the 'personal' page so the writer wrote an ad that said (from memory--something like), "Wanted: someone to take a time travel mission with me. Use of weaponry a bonus but not required. Safety not guaranteed."

    Well, SO many people thought it was a real ad and for years, he got tons of mail--and he said the letters were funny (sometimes), interesting (sometimes) and heartbreaking (often). He said he got the most mail from people in prison, who wished they could go back to the moment they murdered a person, raped a woman, or did whatever crime that landed them there.

    I didn't commit a crime except to myself. But if I were to go back, it was the day I decided to mask what had happened rather than deal with it. At the time, I was 22 years old, sitting in a bar in the Algonquin hotel. The story is actually in my book--my book is partly biographical. But what a moment it was to change my life.

    I can't wait to read what everyone else said too. What a great question as well!
  8. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    Me too. Screw ups for myself and others as well.
  9. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    I think regret is a useless emotion, honestly. It serves no purpose other than to make a person feel worse--and if one feels regret then the lesson has been learned (whatever it was). I used to always tell my students whom I caught plagiarizing, "It's not our mistakes that define us but how we get ourselves back up and brush ourselves up to learn from them." I never wanted to kill a student's dream and I always made it clear that I had screwed up WAY more than anyone.
  10. Doc Creed

    Doc Creed Well-Known Member

    To my mind, regret and dread are rooted in fear, simply two sides of a coin. Regret is the "fear" of the past and dread is the fear of the future. Yes, regret is useless and a waste of time and energy but, in regards to the futile contemplation of changing one's past, it can be the perfect motivator...maybe the only motivator. Therefore, paradoxically, it serves some function or purpose.
    Last edited: Oct 12, 2017
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  11. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    I can agree with that--because the lesson is learned and that is its function/purpose. But wallowing in regret is a waste of time. It's better to go out and do good works to make up for the havoc one creates. If one truly is regretful about something, he/she acts in the opposite manner once they wake up and realize he/she has been a douche. :eagerness:
  12. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    Oh that guitar. I am a guitarist. I dream of a Gibson Les Paul Custom 50th Anniversary Special Edition. I'd get that back too!
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  13. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    My heart goes out to you. I lost my mother on New Year's Day this year. I think of her every single day. (((((hugs))))).
  14. thekidd12

    thekidd12 Baseball is a good thing.Always was,always will be

    As I am sure everyone you know has told you I am sorry for your loss. I wish I could tell you, as I am sure everyone that knows you has, that time will make things better or "heals all wounds". I wish I could, but this December 4th it will be 3 years since the sudden passing of my father.

    I too think of him every day. Saw his truck out of the corner of my eye last week where I parked it 3 years ago and wondered why he stopped there. Then remembered.

    The loss does become less of a sharp pain and more like a tooth that bothers you each time you drink something cold. I wish you well in your process of dealing with loss.

    Just remember that their bodies may go but our parents always live on through their children and perhaps their children's children.

    If you ever need to just vent message me. I spew a lot of nonsense sometimes but am told I listen well.
    Last edited: Oct 12, 2017
  15. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    I'm so sorry for the pain you went through. I also want to thank you so much for your gentle and such appropriate words. I know what you mean by thinking our parents are still around and how it sometimes surprises us that they aren't.

    My Mom and I talked all the time but we had Sundays as marked as the one time we'd make time, regardless of how busy each of us were. Just this last Sunday I woke up and thought, "Oh I only have a couple of hours before Mom calls." Then I cried. I know it will lessen...but it still hurts so much.

    Just like going through pictures and seeing one of the two of us taken the last time I saw her. Damn, here I go again. Thank you so much. And I may take you up on your offer one of these days but only if you promise to do the same if you need a bit of a rant. From what everyone has said (including you), it never goes away.
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  16. Tery

    Tery Dreaming in Middletown Moderator

    Thanks. Yeah, it was special.

    I just want to say that my heart goes out to all who have lost parents. It will be 8 years on Nov.2 that my Mom died suddenly. It's a sucky club to be a member of. :(
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  17. melindaville

    melindaville Well-Known Member

    Tery, I have a feeling that it will still be tough 8 years from now. I'm so sorry for your loss, as I know (now) how really devastating losing a beloved parent can be. (((((((((((Hugs))))))))))).
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  18. do1you9love?

    do1you9love? Happy to be here!

    That it is. Since my dad died last July, I talk to my mom nearly every night. She recently said how much she appreciated it. I would sometimes go a full week before I called. I regret not doing it when I could have talked to both of them.
  19. Tery

    Tery Dreaming in Middletown Moderator

    **hugs back**

    I think TheKidd put it very well:

    There will always be a parent-shaped hole in our lives. All we can do is carry on. :love_heart:
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  20. thekidd12

    thekidd12 Baseball is a good thing.Always was,always will be

    OK after revisiting this thread, kind of a bittersweet experience, I have another close second time that I would go back.

    As many of you know that have read the "drivel" that this board has allowed me to post, on March 1st of this year I took a trip in the middle of night to a local hospital. After EMTs put me on the gurney in my living room I looked at my youngest son and told him quite confidently "I will see you in a little while". 6 hours, 2 defibrillator shocks and 2 stents later I did get to see him. First thing I said to him was "I love you". Should have said it 6 hours before. Now I tell him every time we are going to be apart. Man he is getting so tired of it.

    Guess what? I realized we never know if it might be the last time. If you care about someone tell them.

    Don't give yourself a chance to regret not saying how you feel.

    All our times here are finite.

    Now that I am done preaching if someone will show me how to make one of them "GoFundMe" pages I will take up a collection. :heheh:

    See drivel.

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